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male
age
51-59,
*aytehkh
writes:Recently, my wife told me that she want to split with me, reasons being that she does not have the spark and feeling with me anymore and she can untie that knot from me. She told me that the relationship have been detoriated since 8 or 9 years ago and yet I was not aware. She kept everything in her heart until recently. I feel very sad and lost. I'm very much in love with her or love her forever. I did not know that she was tied by me. Besides, whenever I talk to her, she told me that I'm giving her lots of presssure. Hence, she does not want me to touch her and talk much to her. That make me even lost more. I try asking her out alone but she told me not to waste my time and get ready for the split. I send her flower and she call me and scolded me.I have two wonderful girls. I do not want them to grow up in a breaken family.Please help me to save my marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): I can think of 2 reasons for this:1. for the last 8-9 years, she didn't Tell you problems, and hard feelings built up in her towards you. If she tried to tell you problems and you ignored them, this happens. She loses her feelings for you. It's possible to win her heart back, if you ask her to be honest with you and tell you WHAT HAPPENED to start these lost feelings.2. She doesn't know real love and thinks the grass is greener on the other side. After awhile of dating, she remembers what she had with you, and might want to come back to you.Many times couples split for being misunderstood. Make sure you find out WHAT she is thinking, and believe her.
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (9 February 2009):
 I Went through the same thing pretty much.And the only thing you can do is give her the room she needs maybe she will realize she still loves you in my life that wasnt so i am now without a hubby .You need to think about you and take care of you and the 2 girls .Life is sometimes hard when it comes to love and sometimes the ones that we love doesnt love us back and there isnt a thing you can do about how someone else feels .Not trying to bring in no bad thoughts ,But have you ask her if there was someone else ?Not saying there is but could be or could be if you got married you as i did sometimes your partner falls out of love and no matter what you do (send flowers ,ask out on date ) nothing will change the persons mind which was my case .So I now myself after 26 yrs of marriage am learning to live for me and my girls and maybe you should think about doing the same .Just to let you know there is Life after marriage you just have to want to live it ..
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