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writes: Hi,I have been going out with my boyfriend Dave for about a year. I have known him for four years and i have felt that i have always loved him. It was love at first sight for me, and he eventually first asked me out when I was fourteen. He was seventeen at the time and I wasn't ready for sex- he didn't pressure me - but he broke up with me because I wouldn't touch him intimatly. Our relationship lasted about three months. I missed him and it took me about three years to properly get over him. In this process he had a long term girlfriend called Leanne, I didn't like this - but I had a nice group of friends who I socialised with. Dave was my first love. We never lost contact with each other and we kissed when he was with Leanne. I saw him the next day and he was with his friends and he didn't mention it at all. I didn't either. Anyway, we kept in regular contact, occasionally meeting up, but we mostly talked on the phone. When I was seventeen, we met up and we slept together - he was my first. He then told me he was falling in love with me and it was the words that I longed to hear. Over the past year I have been told that he has cheated on me. I was told by one of my friends Louise. I asked Dave if it was true and he strongly denied it. I then was told again by my cousin (she is friends with Leanne) that she has been told Dave hasn't been faithful to me. Again I told Dave and he again strongly denied it. I can't say that I trust him but I don't want to lose him. He told me that whenever he goes out clubbing he doesn't want me to come and it's 'his time'. I once went into town with my friends and he accused me of 'checking up on him' I denied checking up on him and said I was out with my friends. He also says that another reason he doesn't like going out the same time as me is because he doesn't like seeing me talk to other men. He actually broke up with claiming that he wanted to be single. He cried when he broke up with me and I cried for days. I feel as if i want to break up with him but i really don't know. Please help and sorry for the question being really long. ps I have used fake names.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (1 August 2005):
He cheated on Leanne with you so why wouldnt he cheat on you with someone else?
I think his behaviour is highly suspicious due to you geing told the same story from two different people...would they have any real reasons to make something like this up?
It is only fair that he can go out clubbing alone, but you should be able to trust him when he does go out.
Do you know any of his friends? If so, why not suggest to him that you go along with him one time on a night out with his friends, that way you can get an idea what they get up to on a night.
Also, when and why did he break up with you? If there was no real reason, i would ask myself whether i thought he was ready for a commited relationship.
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