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writes:My ex boyfriend and I are on this crazzzzy roller coaster with our relationship! I'm getting tired of it and hurt and every time I think about just turning away everything we went through makes me heartbroken and go into a depression. I need help and it seems like my friends aren't there for me or see that I need help. Every time my ex boyfriend gets brought up they get mad. help me... please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): Roller coaster... That indicates a lot of highs and a lot of lows. So ask yourself: Do the ups outweigh the downs? If no, you have to let it go, for your own sake.
If yes.. you may STILL need to let it go. Roller coaster rides are known for their passion factor, and excitement, and blur of experience, but one thing about them is, they are short lived. Not long term. They never last.
If you are looking for a serious long term prospect, it should NOT feel like a roller coaster. It should feel more like a drive on the Blue Ridge Parkway. And... you should only be getting that heartbroken and depressed over a long term prospect. That's why your friends get mad at you I bet. Plus you probably bring him up a lot.
So ask yourself. Is he a long term prospect?
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reader, boredinarizona +, writes (18 April 2009):
Well I agree with the first part of the previous answer. All ex's never leave us. They help form who we become for better or worse and never really leave our memories. However if you feel like there is no closure this could be a problem. My advice would be to take some time then maybe talk to him, say your happy about the times you had together but your moving on and wish him the best. If your saying you want to get back with him then don't listen to your friends, he is not their ex, he is yours, give it a try, but before you do you must prepare yourself for the possibility of it not working out. This might help bring a little closure to it.
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (18 April 2009):
The ex always comes back into your life and sometimes he never really leave, in order to move on you need to make him leave and you need to really want it for yourself. Keep thinkin, the only way forward is to let go of the past, if you hold onto that itll never leave you once you let go just let it fall. Your mates probably get mad as they know hes the wrong one for you yet you wnt see it. Try and do your best to move on, your emotions dont need a re run of the past. Hes an ex for a reason and this reason never really goes away.
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