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writes:Hey guys, I've got an issue that’s eating me up inside, and I'd really appreciate some opinions on the situation.This is a long story but I'll try to keep it simple.I started going to university a few weeks ago, and I met the coolest girl...we've been hanging out a lot, and I've been crazy about her the whole time. She always wanted to see me, touching me during conversation, making heaps of eye contact and all that...I thought she liked me for sure.She was telling me how her last boyfriend treated her pretty badly, and that she moved down here to get away from him. She told me that I'm the awesomest guy she’s met in a long as time (her words), so I was all ready to tell her how I feel about her.Then her ex-boyfriend visited last weekend, and long story short, she got back with him. This literally happened on the day I was gonna ask her out, so I was left feeling confused and hurt. She got back with this guy, who she told me all about, what a bastard he was to her, etc...Now the issue:About a day or two after she got back with her ex boyfriend, she's all ready been having big arguments with him, about the same bad stuff that she told me about: him secretly using drugs and selling them, and being a real control freak.She's noticed that I've been really quiet and withdrawn around her, ever since she told me about her getting back with this guy...because I’m basically in love her, and can't believe what is happening. I can't even look at her in the eye without feeling wounded and stupid.She wants me to tell her what's wrong with me. She is very concerned.Do I admit my true feelings, and risk having my heart ripped out? She secretly rejected me when she got back with this guy, and I probably couldn't handle it if she rejected me once she knows how I feel. But I could be missing out on something amazing by being silent.I just want her to be happy, and I can't stand to see her unhappy with the ex boyfriend. I know I could make her happy, given the chance...Thanks to anyone who actually read all of that, I really really appreciate it.
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reader, zay zay  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 If you want a good answer keep reading... Hey dude I know how you feel that happened to me this school year and it SUCKS, but it's alright just stay confident, but not cocky, ask her out and if she says no too bad for her. She is gonna be the one in the messed up relationship and you in university, there is supposed to be like over a thousand girls there. Don't get emotionly scared by one... In fact by none in that matter. That's all I can say about that question, and thanks for reading all this. Hopefully this helps you out just a little. :)
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reader, 7th Seeker +, writes (4 April 2009):
7th Seeker is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey, just an update for anyone who read this: the girl guessed what I was feeling down about...she was surprised that I felt that way about her, and she only thought of me as a friend all this time. But she said that if she wasn't with her ex, she would consider being with me, because I'm the best guy she's met in quite a while. So yeah...I'm disappointed, but so glad to have this off my chest.
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