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30-35,
*arahprettybby
writes:I have two questions about relationships.What is truly respecting someone? How?and..What is truly trusting someone? Do they have to earn it or do you just have to learn how to etc...?I need some advice on what the two really mean. Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (18 October 2010):
 I will assume this is a romantic relationship, I will attempt to break it down its basics.
View a romantic relationship. Respect is shown when neither partner dismisses the other's beliefs, what they think is right, what they need to do. Feel free to discuss anything but do not assume that the other is wrong. Consider and acknowledge that they have said something and you have thought about it. To respect another is to be aware of what it is they do for the relationship. For example, imagine the stereotype relationship between a husband and wife, the wife tends to cook and clean and take care of the house, she is completely devoted to ensuring her husband is happy and he has a meal and a tidy house to come home to so he is comfortable.
A husband who respects his wife would see this, see what she does for him and how hard it is sometimes to put his needs before her own. He would let her relax, he would take over and he would ensure that she is smiling and that she has a neat and tidy house to relax in. If she aches from a hard day's work, he would treat her to a day at a spa or even, give her a massage himself purely because she does so much for him and he feels as though he needs to do the same for her. Not for sex, not for his personal gain, a respectful husband would do it for her happiness and for no other reason.
To trust another. Again, let us use the example of a stereotype marriage. A wife often goes out with her friends for perhaps an afternoon or night, the husband would have to trust that she would not flirt with other guys or give them her cell number or other things that would lead to an affair. But a wife would have had to have built that trust. The same goes for a husband who goes out with his friends or sometimes if they just simply go out at all. There has to be trust and it has to be built and it has to be maintained.
Although the same basic principles of respect and trust can be brought into non-romantic relationships. Friendships or Family relationships rely on the same basic principles with numerous variables. For example, can a mother trust her children to care for the house and each other while she is away? Can a father trust his children to make the right choices? The mother and the father have an obligation to teach their children to way of the world in all of its difficulties and eases, the children must trust in what their parents have said but the parents must also learn to respect the choices their children make, assuming of course, they were not completely illogical choices.
I hope that helps.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): To respect your partner you have to be honest make an effort always to compliment,and appreciate them always put them and their needs if its of real importance before your own,always put your trust into what they are saying is true dont just dismiss it as lies as that shows no respect,respect and trust go together you cant have one without the other
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