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writes:Why does he treat me badly and what can be done to improve our relationship? My boyfriend of over 2 years is treating me unkindly. He has a very short temper with me, calls me bad names -jokingly he sais- and does not seem to trust me. I have told him to stop calling me names, even though he's "joking" its disrespectful. He stopped for a few weeks but recently started up again. I try to have conversations with him about how I'm feeling and he rolls his eyes, listens reluctantly, then hugs me and sais, "Oh stop, you know I love you" and the conversation ends without discussion. Sometimes, he is not polite towards me. He rarely asks me how my day was or what I think. He seems to have become more selfish the longer we're together. Maybe I allow this behavior and if so, how do I stop? We have lived together for 18 months and I am not sure if this relationship can improve. I am not ready to give up on us yet. I know how wonderful our relation can be... I have seen it and we continue to enjoy good times together. I guess I would just like a little more respect and see, through his words and actions, that I am worth something of high value in HIS eyes. So the question remain. Please help
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (17 August 2008):
 It will only get worse. End it now. When you leave..you are showing him that he has crossed your boundries and you are not going to put up with it. he thinks you will never leave and he can do or say anything. Prove him wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): You teach people how to treat you...and the reason he is mean and hateful, is because you don't make him stop. Examples of making him stop is to move out, and not allow him to be unkind toward you. Please know, that by no means do I think it is your fault, that he is being such a jerk. You deserve all the love and commitment as anyone in this world. Some people just feed off making others feel less than they do. All you can do, is lace up your boots, and walk away. Please know that I will pray for sweetie. Best of luck!!
---The GabberJack
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): I don't think there is any hope. He does not take your requests seriously, which is totally unacceptable.
Sounds like you are trying your best to improve things, but he is doing sweet blow nothing from his side. Relationships are a two way thing, if he can't respect you, why should you bother?
I was always told by my dad to ditch men who call me names immediately, even if in a joking way. Because it means that they do not respect women.
I know it is hard when you realise that eighteen months was all for nothing, but rather end it now than hanging on, you are only making things worse for yourself.
Best of luck, remember, you are special, and deserve better!
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