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writes:my boyfriend cheated on me, and a couple years later we are thinking of getting back together again. we never were able to stop caring about each other completely though we had other relationships.i trust him. when girls flirt, i dont get upset, just jealous.i just dont trust his relationship with this girl, kianna. he says she is his best girl friend and whereas we are 19 almost 20 she is only 16. but she is always saying she loves him, calls him pet names...he says it means nothing, but that is what happened before. he cheated on me with his closer girl friends. he said he will talk to her but so far it hasnt stopped.it makes me uncomfortable.when my best guy friends get girlfriends, i try to be especially nice to them so they know i am not a threat but in complete support of the new relationship. so far she just seems to want to make me feel this way.what do you think? once a cheater always a cheater? should boyfriends [if we date again its going to be with marriage in mind] be allowed such close girl friends? should i put my foot down and say either you tell her to back off or im not putting myself into an uncertain relationship again?i dont want to date him until i feel absolutely comfortable and i dont. and i dont want to be an overbearing girlfriend, but if i am giving up the guys in my life, shouldnt he be doing the same?
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (17 August 2008):
 I would not get back with him if it was me personally. Sounds like he's still immature and likes a lot of female attention maybe? what with all the pet names n that. All sounds quite immature, and lets face it, it is, you're all only teens.
You would need to trust him completely, but you dont, so thats enough for it not to work, let alone with the added mixture of a love struck 16 yr old in on the ingredients.
I expect you will get back with him anyway, because you still have a connection, but just remember all those facts. Because i would bet any money the issues will arise.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): you cannot mend a broken glass...Things did not work out the first time, and by the sound of it, it will not work out this time...
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