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writes: Hi,Lately i have started to see my ex again after not talking for 3 years and now we have feelings for each other. He makes me so happy and has asked me to go out with him again but no matter how much i want to or how he makes me feel i know i couldn't trust him after last time so i told him no. But since i told him i can't sleep, i feel so miserable cos he's no longer talking to me in any way and i miss hanging out with him.i dont want to be needy but i hate not talking to him and if he really loved me like he said wouldn't he be upset or am i being stupid and it was all just talk. Messed up or what?!xx
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (8 July 2006):
 Hey,
you are probably not as messed up as you think you are. I think that the reason you had/have feelings for your ex again is that you say you didn't talk for three years, so ask yourself, were you really over him? Or is this just all of your old feelings coming back because you never really healed the wound of breaking up?
A couple of weeks ago, I was in the same situation. I turned him down also. You feel bad because you love the attention he gives you and love how he makes you feel wanted and you feel as though you're letting him down. Maybe you feel you owe him something for all the attention and praise he's been giving you? Why is he your ex? Why did you break up? Do you feel you can trust him or do you just enjoy him noticing you?
Don't feel troubled, I hope I have said something helpful and I'm always here if you want to talk about it. All The Best,
Phoebe
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