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writes: I'm 17, and I'm a lesbian. I've known this girl for just a little over a year next month, and I'm madly in love with her. The problem is that she lied about her age. she's not 15, but 13. I can't stop loving her, so what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2007): I think that love is love you cant change it I am deeply in love with an older woman and shes not just a few years older there is quite a gap I am 16 she is over 25 we are both in love and we accept it. I love her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2006): I totally disagree with these comments! You are 17 - she is 13! Age does matter and LOVE IS A CHOICE. This girl hasn't even had a chance to get used to the crazy hormones surging through her body as a young pubscent woman. If you truly love her, leave her alone and let her mature. Real love doesn't constrain - it is the wisdom to see what's best for the other person and act upon it, despite what one's "feelings" may say. That's real love. Not some fickle emotion. Love is hard.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (7 July 2006):
 You cannot help who you love but there are two things to consider here. (1) She has lied to you about her age, what else is she not being truthful about? How does her lie affect you? Is she secure with her sexuality or just confused and will end with you getting hurt? and (2) Most countries have laws about underage sexual relationships and if her parents don't approve then it could get you into a bad situation with the law. At the very least you need to practise 'hands off' love and demonstrate maturity (you maybe only a few years older but 17 is emotionally a huge difference to 13 for most people).
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reader, Little_Laura +, writes (7 July 2006):
 This is a pretty difficult one. I do agree that age is only a number but a lot of people are gonna have problems with you two being together. I think as long as you two can get over what others say together you should be fine. I think you should continue to be together for as long as it works for both of you otherwise you will only regret it later. If you're in love, you're in love and that's it. Be together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2006): I think that the main thing that people will be concerned about, especially older relatives is the fact that shes under 16 and your over 16. However i think its great that you have found someone you love so i think you should try and work things out. I also think you need to let her know that trust is important and that you need to be honest with eachother.
Age is only a concern when you are young and im sure that if you 24 and she was 20 there would be no problem at all.
Age is only a number and the only difference between you and her is that you will have more experience.
all in all love is really hard to find so dont let it go so easily.
good luck
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