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writes:Should I remember the things I've done with my ex? I constantly flash back those moments when I am about to sleep. Sometimes I feel it's not healthy because I tend to act as though what we had is still going on. But just merely the thoughts were so exciting and they really lit me up. What should I do? I'm worried if I always pretend that he's there and if I later develop some schizophrenia sort of disorder. It's as though I'm living in my own fantasy world. It's not good, is it...?
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 wellllll I think that I can relate to you here. Except I now know that I just couldn't let go of what I had with this one guy. He didn't make it easy tho because he kept coming in and out of my life, clearly part of that was my fault, but when you imagine someone there and they do come back, you got the real deal, its hard to say no. But there comes a time when you'll realize that you need to let go and that whatever you had with your guy is in the past and there is even someone better out there for you.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 Our minds cannot help remembering those eventful moments. You need to refocus your mind back on your priorities in life or on God.
What do you want in your life? What are your plans ? What do you want to do for tomorrow ?
Keep your mind busy for an idle mind is the devil's workshop.
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (16 March 2010):
 Are you just reminiscing of the times you had together? If so, that's normal. And especially when you're not doing anything else, like when you're about to go to sleep.
Sometimes I think of so much stuff before I go to sleep and I often wonder if I'll go insane lol
How long has it been since you broke up? If it's not long, I'd say that your mind is still trying to work through the breakup and what you had with him. I think we all do this.
But are you perhaps dwelling on it a bit too much? Are you not letting go?
If it hasn't been long since your breakup then all you need is time. You will constantly think about him and go over things in your head, many of us do it. Nothing wrong with that, and it will become less of an issue in time.
But if it's been a while, you need to ask yourself why you're still stuck on him. Have you met other people, new frends, tried a new hobby, gone to new places. I think when your mind is not occupied enough, you start to dwell on things like this.
In the end though, if you're really worried or if this continues to bother you, you should speak to someone like a counsellor to help you through it.
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