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writes:Dear Cupid,There's this girl. (Cliché, right?) She's just about the cutest thing I've ever seen, and at the same time she's so independent and self-sufficient. She's not interested in a boyfriend and that's part of why I find her so attractive.It's because we have common ground there. The two of us can talk about how we're perfectly happy on our own, and don't need relationships to live life to its fullest.Unfortunately, because we're so compatible, I have developed a huge crush on her. Sometimes I get overwhelmed and lost for words when I'm around her because she is so adorable and feisty.My problem is just that.I don't want to weird her out with my affections. (Part of the problem is that we're the same sex and though I don't think she'd judge me, I'm afraid she'd treat me differently if she knew I was bi, and on top of that was gay for her.) I would rather keep our close friendship than risk it by confessing any feelings.So. Any advice for me? Is there any way I might be able to get over my crush?It seems like I'm just falling deeper and deeper with each passing day, and I want to reverse this.Sincerely yours,Reluctantly Romantic
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reader, SeXylOvE12 +, writes (15 January 2010):
 You are in a tough situation my friend. If you still want to remain friends, and she doesn't reciprocate your feelings, you're just going to have to keep telling yourself that your relationship cannot go past friendship. Maybe you should try talking to her about it. It might be helpful (if she doesn't feel the same way) to hear her tell you that. Because, probably, since you haven't said anything, you're still harboring that sliver of hope in the back of your mind that she'll like you back. And who knows, maybe she will. You won't know until you ask her. But, you can do anything you put your mind to, though falling "out of love" is very hard, I know from experience that it's all in will power and determination. Good luck to you!
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