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writes:I know these questions are supposed to be... short, but there's just too much going on to leave anything out and give the wrong idea to people. I've been dating a guy over the internet. Sounds like a bad idea, right? You're half-right, in this situation. We met just before I turned 15 (he was 19 at the time); we've known each other for 3 years, dated for 2 1/2. We met last October, and we had a great time together!I am now 17 and he is 23. We're about to meet again in a week, and I want him to meet two of my friends. He seems as interested in meeting my friends as a dog is interested in eating vegetables! He's talked to both of them before, and he likes them, but he just doesn't want to make plans to meet them. Question 1: How can I convince him that meeting my friends won't be as bad as he thinks it will be?Also, I am ready for a physical relationship - he is not. He thinks anything I mention doing with him (HJ, BJ, etc.) is disgusting and worse than sex. I think it's the other way around, and I have no problem doing this with him. I've even been taking The Pill since about a month ago. He won't budge from his opinion. I admire that he respects me and wants to wait. But I think that he still sees me as the 14-year-old that he met 3 years ago. I'm grown now, and I believe completely that I am ready for this kind of step forward!Question 2: What can I do to make him see that I'm ready for a relationship that goes further than just kissing and hugging?One more thing, I swear! I'm worried that I will only know how to keep this relationship going over the computer. We've only met once, almost twice; both times, I've been scared shitless! What are we gonna do? Will I be disappointed? Will HE be disappointed??Question 3: What do I do???I don't want to break up with him. Period.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): ask him what he wants from this. where is it going.
for my opinion - i think you are foolish to build such hopes on him. he is a fantasy figure to you, who i dont think is really interested. find a real person and enjoy more.
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