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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi,Iam married and happly so but the girl that was my high school sweetheat went her way due to her wanting us to be friends, we have since reconnected via social media and we find that we both still have unresolved feelings for each, she is also married. Its strange its not like we are looking for an affair it just feels so natural when we chat, what do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2012): I say go for it, just keep your emotions in check. The feelings may be pure physical attraction. I can almost guarantee that if you guys have sex, those feelings will dissipate and your going to be left feeling guilty.
You love your wife, may you are just bored in the bedroom and need a little excitement. I think its only natural to want to have sex with other people, but most think its so taboo!
Still, I say go for it, eventhough there are very serious consequences!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2012): "Unresolved feelings" or pure curiousity and the fact that even though she was in your past she is now someone new that has taken an interest in you other than your wife?
Don't get yourself sidelined by this.
You better think hard on this and remind yourself of your wife that has stood by you during thick and thin and bore your children, if children are involved. Remember your wedding vows to honor each other.
And yes, your old flame is still married. I would cease contact with her out of respect for your wife and for your marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2012): I beg to differ as those unresolved feelings dont go away. Neither am I saying act on it. You both need to decide what is it you want, do you love your spouses more, then stay with them if not set them free so they can meet their true love. You can then go and be with your childhood love. A marriage is not a life sentence, sometimes by trial and error we meet our one true love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2012): Be a great husband and keep this woman where she belongs in your past. Maybe you're not looking for an affair, but things happen & a lot of hearts can break. It isn't worth it.
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reader, Candid Cally  +, writes (13 September 2012):
If you are happily married and wish to remain so, you will tell your old flame that your feelings for one another are innapropriate and stop speaking with her. Please, use some good judgement and self-control!
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