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writes:I have been married for 3 years and I have discovered that my husband has signed up to a dating site and has made arrangements to meet a girlfriend he dated 7 years ago through Facebook. I caught him red-handed as I managed to sign in to his email account. Initially he said he was ' trying it out ' then said he was ' lonely ' and now has said he was stupid and he loves me but of all the things we have been through I felt that at least we had some trust. I am absolutely shattered and do not know how to move on from this.. any advice would be greatly appreciated..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): I would have to sit him down and have a good chat with him and tell him exactly how you feel. If he has done this now and you caught him then what has he done in the past that you dont know about. I bet he will do it again and not let on a thing to you. The sly bastard! Sorry, but i truly hate sly people and if i caught my bloke doing that then i would have to question if i really want to patch this up. Would i want to be kept wondering in the future if he is doing it again. Or would i be better off just going my separate way. you cannot go on like this and do deserve better.Remember you only live once and why should your life be like this. Think long and hard.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 If you still want to preserve your marriage ,
you can issue him a dire warning , forgive him and move on.
You caught him on time and let time heal your hurts.
Anything more than may be hazardous to your marriage health.
To err is only human.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (24 March 2008):
 He's got a cheek to preach about trust!!!
I really feel for you, but what your husband was doing was setting himself up to meet another woman. I would have been mortified, that he joined a dating site anyway.
Well! can you get over this, thats the big question?. Women get over their men having affairs, so of course you can get over this. And at least he didnt go through with it, which is a better than if he had.
Will you be able to trust him though?. I know when my husband had an affair and left me, I begged him to come back. He did eventually come home, but I never trusted him again. So of course the marriage broke down.
At least you dont have another woman to contend with, but I wouldnt let him try to push the blame on you, remember its not your fault.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): You tell him that if he's so intent on meeting up with her, then he's not having the best of both worlds. He's not having you as well.
To be honest, I can't believe he's doing this. It's selfish. It's greedy, and it's wrong.
You set him straight, he can't just go meeting up with his ex's when he's married!!
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