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*atePerry
writes:Hey guys.. im in a bit of a situation. I have recently broken up with my boyfriend john, I'm 17 nearly 18 and hes 21. I broke up with him because i felt he was getting way to serious and too much. He was just the perfect guy you couldnt fault him but it was putting me off that he getting too attached. My ex ali who is also 21, we seen each other for 7 months before john and hes always been on the scene. I thought i was over him however im not!!! infact i like him more than ever and he still has feelings for me. John still texts me and misses me soo much but i dont and i feel really bad :( i would love to see ali again i duno why but i've had feelings for him and it hasnt changed, he makes me smile for a reason i cant explain.....What do you guys think? Im i being unfair? should i give it another go with my ex maybe later down the line? Please help me........thank you x
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 Well hopefully you and ali can work on things and you can both be happy together again :-).
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reader, KatePerry +, writes (20 February 2011):
KatePerry is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you! thats good advice, i have stopped talking to john as much and hes got the picture that it wasnt meant to be. I cant help my feelings for ali and its annoying cause i dont want hurt again. Last night there was a party and ali was there and we sat and chatted like old times and made me so much happier, he said that he realised what he lost and that hes never felt like he did with me with anyone else and he was silly and regrets it.......its so complicated :(.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (10 February 2011):
You cant help who you want to be with. It sounds to me like John was a rebound and when he started getting really close you backed away and then realised that you still werent over your ex ali.
But i think you should give it some time before you get involved with ali as you do not want to hurt john anymore than what he is hurting at the moment. If he texts or calls you tell him straight that you think it is best that you dont speak for a while allowing you both time to get over the relationship. Tell john you are sorry and that you want him to move on and be happy. But just make it clear to him that there is no chance of you both getting back together.
After a while has past and the contact has stopped with john then maybe you could start dating ali again and see how you feel then but give yourself sometime first. Goodluck
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