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writes:hello i dnt know where to start about my question but maybe i will start my story n the beginning im 3 years marriage and have 2 kids i met my husband thru online long distance relationship, b4 i met my husband he was broken hearted coz his fiance cheated him and only after his money,... after we been talking online we fall in love each other and after one year talking he visits my country and he proposes to me.after that we process papers so i to come him in US, when i got here we get married right away and after month i get pregnant, and now we have 2 kids, my husband is kind i love him so much, we both young im 24 and his 28, he's in military, i'm just confused about my married im afraid tht my marriage will fall apart, me and my husband dont really talk too much, he's quiet i dont even know how to start a conversation to him lately if im talking or asking to him just try to make communication he just yells at me and said why i always ask stupid thing to him, i dont know where is my right place to him? i just tried to be sweet show some love, he treat me like im annoying, he dont want me to hug him, and he also wants to sleep in the couch.. and he just said he likes in couch, its comfortable,we dont really talk lately i dont know why? i dont have any idea next month his going to his deployment im afraid that maybe he's not happy to me that maybe the time come he will cheat on me... pls help me
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Maybe he's worrying about the same thing with you. He's the one being deployed. Do you know how many women find other men while their husbands are off fghting a war? I suspect his mind is pre-occupied with his deployment. He knows it's his duty, but he'd probably rather be home with you. Guys in the military carry heavy burdens they can't always show. Fear. Anger. Agression. It's easier to push people away, than to tell them what's really bothering them. Plus men don't open up as easily as we do; especially if they're trained military professionals. Just be supportive and tell him you love him. There are no guarantees he won't cheat. There are no guarantees you won't cheat. Love is always a gamble. Just show him you can be strong, keep the home fires burning for his return and be patient.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 You need to sit down and talk to him about this. Your marriage sounds like it was very rushed, you dont truely know someone talking to them on the internet no matter how long it is and it sounds like you married very quick and had children and now this is taking effect on your marriage.
You need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. You will both need to work hard to make this work and he needs to listen to you and you need to tell him everything you have just said here. Goodluck sweetie.
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