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writes:I'm an 18 year old girl, and I really hate leaving home. I just don't feel secure anywhere else. Let me explain, from when I was a very young child, I would never be able to go on sleepovers, I could stay at a friends house all night and all evening, but the thought of sleeping over scared me, so I never did, instead always having friends over to mine.In secondary school, I naturally recieved more invites to girly sleepovers, and always went as I hate missing out, and did enjoy them whilst I was there, but always paniced before hand. I went to America with my best friend when I was 13, and spent the weeks leading up to it in tears every night, not wanting to go. When I got there, I had the best time of my life. I've been away with school and things and the same thing has gone on. I hate going abroad, even with family, I just don't feel comfortable and feel really home-sick. Now i'm older, I love to go out clubbing and partying, but always try and avoid going back to a friends house to sleepover, instead prefering to pay the extra money to get a taxi home. I avoided a girls holiday this year because I knew i'd dread it in the weeks leading up to it, and the date of a festival is looming (which I went to last year, and loved so much I bought this years ticket early) but now I really, really don't want to go. Even though i'll like it when i'm there, I just don't think the stress beforehand is worth it.My best friend and I have been friends since we were 3, so its not like I don't know her family well! I really don't get it, and it fustrates me as i'm missing out! I'm also going to university in september... and starting to panic! Although i'm also really excited. Do I just need to grow up? I confided in my granny, and she suggested it may be a mild anxiety disorder (she was a nurse). Any ideas or suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): It does sound like you have a lot of anxiety. Of course, none of us here are qualified to diagnose you, so a visit to your doctor is probably in order.
Often we are excited for certain aspects of things, but dread others. Is there anything specific you dread when you are thinking of being away from home? Are you afraid of your home being burglarized or something happening to you on your trip? Or is it a generalized anxiety?
Be prepared to describe what exactly you feel to your doctor so he can make the best diagnosis possible. I find it helpful to write your thoughts and ideas down so you have some talking points to guide you through your appointment.
Best of luck!
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