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writes:This is a bit of a messy situation i'm in and it's going to take a bit to explain so do bear with me.It starts with this girl i met a few years ago, and when we first met she was interested in me, but only to get back at my mate who dumped her. At the time i kissed her a couple of times but we never had sex and when she moved past me onto another one of my mates we became really good friends. This fact that she moved onto one of my mates did annoy me at first but honestly i wouldn't get in the way of someone else's happiness so i'm cool with it. A short time after this i met her sister, and honestly since that point in time, which was over two years ago now, i haven't had a day where i don't think of her. To bring it up to the present, I recently dumped my girlfriend who i wasn't in love with, whom i settled for because i thought i wasn't worthy of pursuing the girl i really wanted. This girl was that sister of my friend. She moved to a different city and i thought my feelings for her would disappear but instead they intesified. So i decided to go for what i really wanted and i went for her. It turns out she has liked me back for the same amount of time. I kissed her on a night out, and it felt like colour flooded everything around me. Now this is where the problem arises. Her older sister, the one i've been friends with for years now, saw me kiss her and has completely freaked out. She has blocked my number and won't speak to me and worst of all she won't speak to her younger sister. The day after this night out i met the younger sister to have a brief conversation about everything. This turned out to be the majority of the evening together, where i found i was liking her more and more with each passing moment. I kissed her again and it made her feel guilty, but she then pulled me in when she thought i was leaving. Looking back that day is what makes me happy and sad, because i am probably never going to have that again. See because her older sister is so angry, the younger sister won't try and be with me as she doesn't want to lose her older sisters friendship. Since then, the younger sister won't speak to me. I have trid texting her and eventually got her to try speaking to her sister again but i've not heard back. Its not been very long since this has happened, almost two weeks, but i know she has missed me. I also told her something i shouldn't have as i hate being left open, but i said i'd trade air for a moment holding her. I have missed her to such an extent that i can't even begin to describe it accurately or truely enough to give it justice. It's as is everything else has lost all meaning. The air i breath is more dense and hard to take in. Food has not got the taste it once had. Water doesn't quench my thirst. I know it would not be the end if i don't have her, but the thought of that is like losing everything dear to me. A life without having her, even if it was only to be a brief time (god i hope it wouldn't) would be a life that will forever not have meaning. From this it is probably a safe assumption to make that i am completely in love with her. My question is this, anyone know how i can win her and convince her that even thought her sister is angry at her, I am worth fighting for and enduring that anger? Her sister won't stay mad at her forever, she will get past it and accept it. I can't get over her, since kissing her and having her kiss me she plagues my thoughts, my dreams, my sleep and everything else. She's all i want. This is probably the most cheesey thing i'll ever post, or say but i would endure anything to have her. Any advice would be appreciated and if not sorry for waffling on for so long haha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): This is a really tricky one... As a younger sister myself, I understand your love's perspective - she doesn't want to hurt her, you said it well.
I think the 3 of you should have a long, open conversation. It's gonna be hard, but it's gonna be worth it. Like you said, the older sister can't be mad forever. She'll get over it, probably find someone else... It looks to me like she still has feelings for you, because she freaked out when she saw you kiss her sister.
I wish you the best, man...
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