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writes: hi everyone just a question. i've just started going out with this girl, i really, really like her and everything (we havn't had sex yet) but, when i see her i dont really get turned on, and im worried that when we have sex i wont be turned on then either. i've been really stressed recently and i don't know if that has anything to do with it. its really troubling me. i hope you can give me a lot of feedback soonthanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2006): Hey. Wow, i had that same problem with my current boyfriend. First i held up hooking up with him for 3 months, and I am a very phyical girl! However everything changed when we started hooking up, i starting thinking that he was more attractive and got tuned into the concept of sex and hooking up, not as much the looks. Just take what you have and have fun with it. My guy still doesn't fully turn me on, and i yearn for others that i see, but i can accept who he is and haev fun iwth it now. Let the touches, caresses, and any kind of stimulation make you turned on, not exaclty the physical attributes of your girl. ( If it's a feature that annoys you, like it did for me, good luck! cause that's a challenge, but try to conquer it through time, dont dwell on it because you'll jsut notice it more.)
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reader, shania  +, writes (1 February 2006):
 Stress is making you feel this way,if you really like this girl then eventually it will all fall into place.If you are worried,depressed or stressed out over something then sex will be the last thing on your mind.1st of all,you have to sort out the stress that you are under...once you have removed that,then you can move forward.Why dont you just get to know your girlfriend 1st and once you will feel comfortable,then you will be able to take it to the next step....just dont be hard on yourself.
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