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writes:I'm fifteen and I'm experienced with oral sex and what not. Its usually been with someone I've been in a relationship with - two different people. In 7th grade dated I someone for 6 mos. 8th grade I dated someone for 10 mos. last year, 9th grade I didn't want a bf because of the last one and now I have trust issues. I have this guy friend I grew up with and I can sleep over at his house since our parents trust us we'd never do anything. His friend, I've always had a crush on him. we always flirted with each other. One time he spent the night the same night and I gave him a hand job. it wasn't a big deal but I didn't understand why I did it. I mean I was crushing but didn't really know him at all. then I didn't see him until 2 months later and he gave me his number to text. We texted for a month until he brought 'it' up. then we started talking sexually about what we wanted to do. not until four mos. later (two days ago) did I do anything with him. some drama happened and I didn't trust him and I found out he only talked to me because he's never done anything with a girl and I was his little play toy. There's just something about him that I loved - I don't know what though. We've never had a heart to heart conversation. He doesn't seem like he gives a shit. but for some reason I love everything about him. I kinda get obsessive with wanting things to work with us. so a couple days ago at my friends house I gave him a blowjob because I feel we have to start backwards for him to fall in love with me. I'm just afraid its gonna backfire and its not gonna work. I have this contradicting feeling that he'll fall for me and we'll have a great relationship. he's never gotten a blowjob so I was thinking since I was his first girl to do that maybe it'll mean something? I don't know. I'm so confused. all I wanna do is talk to him but every time I've texted it seems like he doesn't wanna talk. did I fuck up? I don't know what to do. I REALLY like him but he says he's not into relationships. he's sixteen. any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): OMG i have a similar story. Im 16 and last week i gave this dude a blow job. Before i gave him a blowjob we were cool and shit but now he doesnt realy talk to me anymore just a few words on myspace.Hes 16 and hes very expierienced, i swear im truly in love with him but im definitly not sure if he feels tha same way. Hes been trying to get me to be sexual with him for months and i finally gave in. But im worried that if i have sex with him we wont be friends anymore. I dont know if i want to risk our friendship.I dont whats wrong with guys after they get blowjobs, maybe they feel guilty or sumthin?
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reader, LaydeeOfSorrows  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 You were used, and that sucks.
Your obviously not mature enough to be engaging in these acts, and next time, you should wait until you are actually in a relationship.
I'm sorry this happened, as you are probably going to experience heartbreak soon.
My thoughts are with you.
xx
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reader, Tremor +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Oh dear me. Do you really think that performing a sex act on a guy will make him fall in love with you? Being the first girl to give him a blow job means nothing - it just means that you were the first gullible lass to put her lips on his penis. It won't make him love you, it will just make him use you.
From the way you describe his actions, I'd say that yes, you are his play toy, and nothing more. He doesn't want to talk to you, he doesn't seem to be interested, he said himself that he doesn't want a relationship - and yet you insist on getting him off! What hormonal teenage boy could say no to that? It's basically no-strings sex on his part.
You're too young to be getting into sex, and this is why. You don't seem to have grasped the concept - sex doesn't equal love. Try to get over this lad. Cut contact if you have to. You are young, there will be other crushes, and there will be people who won't just use you to get off.
Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): ok it seems like he just wanted someone to do stuff with not so much a g/f...no hunny you didnt fuck up-he did for letting you go.to tell you the truth it feels like he is ignoreing you and maybe you should just be throught with hime brfore he uses you for more then a hand/blow job.
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