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writes: ok, first of all, i'm gay, just so that you don't get confused. moving along, here's the story...one of my friends and i met back about six months ago. and when we first started talking, i found out from her that she used to have a huge crush on me back before we knew each other...which would have been great because i liked her too, except for the fact that she had just recently entered a new relationship with someone else a month before we started talking. so it didn't/couldn't work out between us. but we still stayed friends. but it was hard for a while because there was all of this sexual tension between us. anyway, months passed, and i thought we both stopped viewing each other in a sexual way, and were just friends. but this past weekend, i went home with her to visit her parents, and we hooked up. i wasn't expecting it at all, either. then we talked about our feelings and we both said that we really liked each other, and had the whole time. she said that if she could have things play out the way she wanted, that she'd be with me, and still stay close friends with her girlfriend. anyway, in the end, we both wound up deciding that just staying friends would be the best seeing as how she's with someone else. and i thought i'd be cool with it, seeing as how i could turn off my feelings for her in the past. but now i'm hurt by the fact that she came home and went back to her girlfriend and dropped me. but i'm still confused by her actions. whenever we talk, we flirt, jokingly blaming each other for hooking up this weekend by saying "it was all your fault" and things like that. we throw things at each other, hang up on each other, call just to say "i hate you," etc. and i know it sounds like kindergarten, but it's true. but aside from all the joking, she's kind of started becoming mean to me, as well...which she did when we first met, and later explained it was because she had to guard herself from liking me because she was in a relationship. so the only way she could stop herself from liking me was by being mean. anyway, i guess i'm just having a hard time reading her. i feel like if it was a mistake and she doesn't want to hook up again, or be with me, then why does she keep acting this way? sorry so long and so childish. i feel 15 again.
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reader, sxyredhdnc +, writes (17 July 2006):
 sounds to me like she has the problem knowing what she wants not you.don't play her game stop the childish banter on and off the phone but tell her seriously how you feel.if you don't talk to her it may never get resolved.on top of that she may be feeling guilty about stepping out on her gf and is taking it out on you.so communicate that's your key not the childish ranting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2006): don't worry if u like her still then tell her but try to move on
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