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writes:Please guide me with ur answers. N forgive me for the length. My gf and I are lesbians in a long distance relationship separated by an hour n a half. Newayz I noticed some changes in my gf and how she began to treat me. She stop texting sexual and wanting sexual pics she stopped calling while at work. I thought all this was due to our true love setting in n it was normal for those things to decrease. My gf decreased answering my calls, seemed like we were arguing more. She wanted more time apart. All these things gradually happened, then this month recently she went 9 straight days without wanting to talk with me, only wanting to text n not a lot of texts maybe 3 or 4 a day give or take 3. So I texted her asking will she be home Sunday, she replied yes. N Sunday I went to her state to get my belongings from her home n to break up with her. She tried explaining y she had not been talking to me n y things changed she blamed it on issues she was dealing with......we kept talking n I was gonna give her another chance.So we went to service station to get gas n she showed me a video on her phone, so I asked after the video to see her phone (she always kept her phone on locked but I never made a big deal out of it bc we are both closet lesbians n I thought she just didn't want her relatives seeing it) she gave me the phone. I looked in her call history then I went in her text n I saw a name sharee n I just clicked on it. I strolled up to the beginning of October n begin reading, my heart sunk. My gf was texting this woman telling her she loves her, asking to send pics, telling her her breast are big, saying she could have had birthday sex with her instead of me, telling this lady she will call her when she's home bc she at work, telling her we are on bad terms. Reading all this felt like I was emotionally dying. My gf said she never fucked the lady n the lady lives 4 states away from her n they never met. I'm really hurt by all this and need some outside advice to help me. Since they never met or had sex am I over reacting? Should I forgive her or break up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2012): You are in love with a Serial Cheat. Serial Cheats have also been known to be Narcissitic. Narcissists cannot be reformed- they are Narcissists indefinitely.
To your GF and should be EX GF- she needs women's attention and infatuation with her as these other women supply her narcissistic need for attention. Its their drug of choice so to speak.
Since she is a serial cheat- she does not meet your healthy standard and healthy expectation of having a Partner that believes and lives FIDELITY, FAITHFULNESS.
Why invite the drama and pain of loving someone untrustworthy into your life?
Be Wise, Be Strong, Love Yourself, and End this toxic relationship.
You can do it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 November 2012):
 I'd break up. you will never trust her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2012): Break up. She's not really in the relationship with you, you are just an entertainment for her.
Do you really have to ask?
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reader, fishdish +, writes (28 November 2012):
 sorry for the tech glitch!
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reader, fishdish +, writes (28 November 2012):
oh man that is too much. end it and try to go for a girl closer to home where you can keep an eye on her ;)
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reader, fishdish +, writes (28 November 2012):
oh man that is too much. end it and try to go for a girl closer to home where you can keep an eye on her ;)
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reader, N91  +, writes (28 November 2012):
 Imagine this scenario, say I had a girlfriend and she came to you for advice saying that she has seen me text other girls saying that I want to have sex with them what would you tell her?
Apply that to your own situation...
This is a form of cheating, maybe not physical but she's breaking the boundaries of a relationship. Also just because she says they havent had sex doesnt mean shes telling the truth..
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