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writes: My girlfriend and I have been going out for over a year and we both love each other and are committed. However I find her a bit one sided most of the time and today she said that when we had sex, she gave me somthing and I didn't give her anything. She feels that girls are the only ones who give somthing and to a man it means nothing too them.What does she mean? Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (3 February 2007):
 Then that's the problem. When you do it sometimes, you have to do it "quick" because other people are in the house and you're afraid of someone walking in on you. A woman takes on average 25 minutes to heat up and come to orgasm so you can imagine how unfulfilled she must feel when you have these "quickies." Explain to her it's because there's other people in the house and promise her you'll take her away for a nice weekend and you'll make it up to her then.
I would advise you in the future just to cuddle up to your girlfriend when other people are in the house, she'll get just as much from that, being close to you and cared for, until you can have the house to yourselves, then you can take your time and concentrate more on her needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTbh i don't know what she means because we rarely get the house too ourselves and she isn't bothered when we do it quick. Other times when we have the house to our selves for a long ammount of time we make it last a long time and I give her an orgasm and she loves that.
At times however when a lot of her family are in the house and we do it i feel very uncomftable because they could knock on the door.
I do think she means emotionally.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (2 February 2007):
Sounds to me that she's saying she gives her all to you, in other words she gave you more love and attention than you give her. She feels she puts more into love making than you do. You need to ask her to be more specific here and tell you exactly what she means so you can rectify it in the future.
This is a long shot but it could also mean she's got an STD and passed it on! Probably not but you can't help but wonder when she's been so evasive.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): sounds like she has a bit of a hang up.did you give foreplay? did you give her the big 'o'? or were you mister 5 seconds?sex is a special intimate thing and shouldnt just be treated as a cheap thrill or a toy, its giving your body to someone whos supposed to mean something to you. im not sure just how explicit advice we can give on here, but try going down on her. dont do it like a cat and just lap.. flick it, draw circles and letters on her clit with your tongue as you finger her. it kills the jaw after a few minutes but dont give up until she shakes her way through a mind blowing orgasm. if that fails your either useless or you need to sit her down, tell her you want to be a good bf for her and ask her to show you what she likes, in return show her exactly what you like.
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reader, CRYSTAL23  +, writes (2 February 2007):
 She means emotionally or she might me that mabey you climax and she doesn't ,is that the case?Do you know if she orgasams?If so then she definitly means emotionally.I said the same thing to my ex bf once becuase it felt like that ,he would do it get dressed and then turn over and watch tv,What a guy should do is alot of cuddling afterwards,even just a kiss and tell her u love her or how beautiful she is ,those things mean alot more to a woman then sex believe it or not.Just try that and i know she would be much happier.
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