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writes:Hi.This is going to be long but i have to get it all out.. When i was 12 i went through a rough time. I'm now 16. When i was 12 i was raped, the rapist has never been caught. I only went to the police when i was 15, i was too scared and ashamed to go before. I told them exactly what happend and also made an e-fit. Before i told anyone i cut myself, and took overdoses which ended up with me in hospital. When i told the police it braught it all back, i had to re live it in the police station. For the past year i have been suffering from nightmares and flash backs, even when i am awake. I am struggling sleeping, and have recently lost my friends, due to me being a bitch with them. I have a boyfriend, of a year and he is great with me, but he just doesnt understand what im going through, im always crying, i take it out on my boyfriend and my family when i have a bad time, i have started cutting myself again. I did see a councellor, at St. Marys, which specialises in sexual attacks and rapes, but that didnt realy help me, i have now started at a psychiatrist but im afraid this isnt going to help either.. I cant stop this from happening, anyone any ideas, maybe of someone it has happened to? i didnt know the person who did it to me either.. pls help me i will be greatful x x x x x x x x x x Reply to this Question
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reader, love-him +, writes (27 June 2007):
love-him is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for helping =] i also had to do video evidence but that wont be shown to anyone apart from the police department who are dealing with it and the court and veiwers if they find the man.. kay kay, thank you so much, yes i will mail you, and i do hope it helps me more.. thanks everyone x x x x
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (27 June 2007):
 I made a video evidence video because I was just under 16 which was palyed in court.
Keep looking for a psychiatrist. As I said it took me 2 years to find the lady I saw and I felt she was helping me right away.
It does feel strange to begin with but the best thing to do is relax and open up to them. They won't judge you on anything you say, no matter how bad it is.
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reader, love-him +, writes (27 June 2007):
love-him is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHiya YummyMummy, i did ask my doc about sleeping tabs and anti-depres, but he said this goes more futher than that and said i needed to talk to a psychiatrist about it, because it is more worse than other people have said.. i have tried with the councellor, i still felt strange to talk to someone who didnt no, but i still feel strange because my mum sat with me while i gave my statement because i was under 16.. =[ x x
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (27 June 2007):
I was abused as a child from ages 9-16. The guy is currently serving a long term in prison.
Whether he was locked up or not wasn't what effected me the most. I had nightmares for a long time. I went and started counselling just so I could take about everything that was going on in my head. It helped SO SO much! To talk to someone who didn't know me, or the guy or my family.
I couldn't talk to my family as I didn't want my family to know exactly what I went through. It was bad enough knowing my dad sat in the court while my evidence was shown.
Seriously think about finding someone else to talk to that is going to help you! It took me 2 years to find my counsellor, but boy did she help.
Also chat with your doctor about having some sleeping tablets and maybe some anti depressants! Nightmares and flashbacks are normal sweetie :)
Just remember, this guy isn't worth destorying you! I know he's still out there but don't let him beat you!
xxxxxx
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reader, Beckto  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Stick with your counselor. It takes years to get to where you can function normally again. Even when you don't feel like going, or if you don't think it's doing anything, keep going. Give it some time, but keep going to your counselor.
I speak from experience. Hang in there. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
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