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writes:Well, this is more a rant than a question but opinions would be appreciated.So basically last night I ran into my ex, first time I'd seen her since we split up (oh and it was BAAAAAAD break up I hasten to add).She kind of took me by surprise, I saw her walking into the pub so me and my friends left, I swear she'd walked through the bar so it was quite a shock to find her standing next to me when I exited the pub.I was in a kind of shock I guess, I thought "well I'll try and be nice" so we talked for a bit, general chit chat, she told me I was looking well. She said "its nice that we can talk" to which I said "well I'm a nice person but I still don't want to be your friend" at which point she started laying into me! She said, so what I left you for someone else there are worst things I could have done. I never loved you! I was stunned, told her she had no dignity because she couldn't even hold her tongue for 2 minutes even after all the months that we haven't seen each other - told her that she had absolutely no reason to say those things, nothing to gain from it apart from ruining my night. At that point I walked off and threw a few choice insults at her. It wasn't what I'd hoped for... I started the conversation with the best of intentions but she started laying into me...So today I found out that she'd contacted one of our mutual friends about an hour after this happened, trying to get my phone number - he refused thank God but I am keen to know why she wanted to contact me.I mean, what on earth is she playing at? I don't want to believe she was acting out of malice, wanting to destroy the self esteem I've built back up over the last few months but part of me thinks this is probably the most likely scenario... Anyone have any thoughts? It's proper stumped me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): well you started off right by saying hello, but you did ask for a mouthfull when you said 'i still dont want to be your friend' was a bit of a stupid comment to make, that obiously upset her and she reacted, she was maybe trying to get your number the apologise or talk things over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): Maybe she wanted your number to apologize to have said those things? maybe she was drunk which is way she said those things?or maybe like the others said...she just wanted drama
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): I don't think she has anything going on at the moment so she's just trying to make some drama and have some fun. That's what it sounds like, she didn't have anything better to do, no one else to go and see or be with.. kinda sad actually.
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