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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:When i'm sober i am really boring and find it hard to start conversations. At work i'm the quiet one with hardly anything to say. Talking to a girl i just get tongue tied and embarrased.When i have had a drink i'm the life and soul of the party. Girls find me interesting and really funny, the other nite at a works outing i got chatting to three girls and they all were laughing and hanging on to my every word, my work collegues could not beleive what they were seeing.Then monday morning comes round and i'm back to Mr quiet and boring.I heard anti-depressants pep pick up pills might spring me into life without resulting to drinkLil help xxx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 May 2009):
Taste of India has it completely right.
You know that if you got friend to provide you with none alcoholic beer but told you it was real then you would have no problem being Mr Cool, this problem is in your head and pills are NOT the answer.
The only thing that beer does is lower your inhibitions.
You have to realise that you are that guy so act like him and give yourself a slap when you feel nervous.
Once you do it once it will be easy so just take a breath and talk to people. Set yourself a mission to talk to a girl EVERY day next week during the 9 to 5 day.
They don't know you are nervous till you show them so just chat to a girl in subway about the weather.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (15 May 2009):
 You need to realize that it's not that alcohol makes you magically transform into this great, charismatic guy. You're ALREADY that guy. You just get too shy to show off the real you without getting a drink in you to loosen up.
Experiment, next time that you're at a party, get a drink that LOOKS alcoholic, but isn't. Have it in front of people and pretend like you've boozed. Give yourself a good placebo effect. Then, let that natural confidence ooze out of you!! Show yourself that you can be that fantastic without anything to drink.
Remember, only you have convinced yourself that you're Mr. Quiet & Boring. You're interesting all the time, you can be funny all the time! Alcohol is just your excuse to show it.
Go somewhere where no one knows you and experiment with Mr. Life & Soul of the party WITHOUT the alcohol. Go up and talk to a few girls. Don't be nervous - you know that its in you! You just freak yourself out. I know you can do it and YOU know you can do it!
Good luck, sweetness!
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