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writes:I have this question that I never asked anyone about STDs, probably because it's stupid. It's kind of hard to explain.People tell you that abstinence is the best way to prevent STDs. If you and your partner are both virgins, then it is safe to have sex with each other. The thing that confuses me is that we all have to start out as virgins, so how did STDs come into existence in the first place? If I have sex with someone who doesn't have an STD, then I won't get an STD right? So if we were all virgins, then we all started out with no STDs. Therefore, at some point in human history, someone had to have sex with a "safe" partner and somehow got an STD. Then that person started spreading it to others. How though did the first people get STDs if no one had them? Does that mean we can still get an STD with our partner even if we are both virgins? I'm so confused...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): You can get AIDS without having sex (through blood or born with it) and it's possible to pass herpes from the mouth to the genitilia.
So it is possible to have an STD even if you are a virgin, but it's unlikely. Use a condom,and spermicide... you still need protection against pregnancy.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (11 September 2009):
 In today's world abstinence is the best way to prevent STD's but condoms come a close second!
Basically no-one is really sure of where STD's originated from - I'm sure if you googled it then there would be a variety of theories that come up! I have heard that it came from people having sex with animals - it sounds far fetched but if you think about it then it could be quite likely.
Bear in mind the way all viruses and diseases work - often they start out as one thing and then evolve into something else, so maybe some STD's started out being transmitted through coughing or sneezing or something like that and then when we all came immune to catching it that way, it changed to being transmitted sexually rather than being airborne.
I'm sure there are hundreds of ideas where STD's originated from and I agree, it is a confusing topic! But instead of worrying where they originate from, just make sure you have safe sex and get tested each time you sleep with a new partner! The way I do things is to always use condoms and a form of birth control, and then if I have been with someone a while I will get tested and so will they, then if we are both free of STD's then we can stop using condoms. That way you know it is safe and you dont have to worry!
I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): You seem rather intelligent - you know if you're both virgins you are technically safe, however some diseases can be passed on through oral sex so be careful. If you're definitely sure that you have never been with anyone else in a sexual manner then you will be safe. An STD is a disease... it's a virus or similar... I'm not entirely sure how it was first 'created' so to speak - you have to remember that something that small can rapidly mutate, so something that started off as a tiny harmless organism can change into a harmless one with little trouble. The answer is not to have unprotected with anybody until you trust them and/or you've both had a clean STD test!
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