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*ubbleygirl33
writes:hey well here goes im real close to my bf and well i realy want to have sex with him but im 14 and so is he we've done everything else apart from having sex we both want it im just worried about geting pregnant or s.T.i and even worse my mum finding out yes people have been saying go to the gp but i want to but im scared on what they would say and scared of what my mums reaction would be ? i need advice from someone who knows what there talking about p.s i need also advice on pills and condoms if u could email me private thanx x
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reader, Dr.R +, writes (6 February 2009):
i was 13 when i lost my virginity and it is scary...espscially when you feel that the condom might split. It isn't all that bad due to my mum found out and she reacted completely different, she was ok with it. If you did have sex and your mum found out she most likely will understand if you talked about it. Condoms and the pills are most defiently safe and will lower your risk of getting pregnant. The face of s.t.i's, well if it is you and your partners first time the chances are really low of passing infections on, due to not having sexual intercourse before. There are also local clinics that help you and will provide you with free condoms (c-card) pills, and if you feel you may be preganant a free, confidental pregancy test which will tell you straight away. If you really want it then there is really nothing to worry about, however you may find out it is not worth all the hastle, due to the pain of losing your virginity. Although if you really want to it's your choice and good luck!
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reader, timeforchange  +, writes (6 February 2009):
i was also 14 when i first started having sex and it is a very scary thing. especially when you live day to day with the fear that you might be pregnant. well i am currently 19 and my mom is yet to find out that i am no longer a virgin. what me and my bf did was... he used a condom but he would also pull out when he "came". that way if the condom busted he wouldnt be inside of me. another thing to do is to tell your bf to make sure his condom fits because i know a lot of girls who have gotten prego the first time they have sex and it is because the condom broke which is because it did not fit. so jusr make sure that this is what you really want to do and think about it on your own and there are also free clinic's available such as PLAN PARENT HOOD that give birth control pills and condoms for free. surf the web and look into free things like that. good luck
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reader, AuntLola +, writes (6 February 2009):
 Don't stress out, i guarentee nearly every girl your age is in the same situation.
If you and your boyfriend are both virgins there isn't much worry about an STI.
And your Gp isnt the only option to go to, im sure there are sex clinics you can go to which don't contact parents.
In these sort of sex clinics you can get free condoms.
I wouldn't advise going on the pill just yet, but defonitly go on it as soon as your sex becomes a regular thing.
Condoms are a 98% certainty of precaution.
But make sure after sex to check the condom, to see if there is any splits or rips.
and if there is you can go and get the morning after pill.
I would also advise you not to listen to your friends about sex, because they proberly know as much as you.
Any other questions please ask and i would be glad to answer
Aunt Lola
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