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writes:*Op's own title*My boyfriend wants to know who "I" am texting and who is texting me all the time. Most of the time it is between my kids and I. I resent telling him what I am doing all the time. I get annoyed and feel that he is being too nosy. I have nothing to hide from him. Occasionally I will get a text from someone in my past. I have showed him the texts, but I don't think it should be necessary. Nothing is meant by it. All it does is make him mad. At night I turn my ringer off just in case someone decides to text me. He wonders why I do that. Do you think it is wrong for him to constantly questioning my phone activity. Do you think HE is hiding something? By the way, his ex wife cheated on him. How do I deal with THAT scar??
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reader, raiders +, writes (6 April 2010):
 Your boyfriend should respect your privacy, don't start now don't show him every single text you get, put your foot down. Let him get mad and let him throw tantrums but don't give in to his in securities. Trust is very important and if you have not given him any reason for his attitude than don't put up with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): You can do one of two things...you can kill him with kindness and show him your texts everytime he asks to see what you're doing, because it will bore him and he'll get tired of checking up on you when he realizes you have nothing to hide, or you can go with the other option and choose to exercise your right to not ever have to show him anything you don't want to, since he should trust you anyway. Trust is essential in any relationship, and you can't have happiness without it. He can't possibly feel too happy inside himself in the times he doesn't trust you, so you can bring that up to him and make him realize that not everyone is like his ex wife, so he should never just assume the worst.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (6 April 2010):
 He is paranoid and thinks your cheating on him. You have explained to him and showed him the texts which you didnt have to do and that should be the end of it.
If he is constantly going on about it then he just cant trust you and that is no basis for a healthy relationship. You could try talking to him and discuss the trust issue, if he loves you then he should calm down, but right now he is afraid of getting hurt again so he is making a big issue out of this.
Only time will heal that, he has to learn that not all women will cheat on him.
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reader, advice angel +, writes (6 April 2010):
 because his ex wife cheated on him he might feel insecure with you,thinking you would do the same.
he might just be curious who is texting you but that gives him no right to want to know whos texting you,or who you are texting,i think you neeed to reveal to him that you would never cheat on him the way his ex wife did,and see what he says,this doesnt come across to me as if he was cheating,since he knows what its like off his ex wife,just see how things go. x
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reader, help heros +, writes (6 April 2010):
 you and your boyfriend should trust each other and he shouldnt want to look at your phone to se who you are texting it is your privet busness. the reason he proberly wants to know is with his wife cheating on him he will think you might so that is why he does this. you should sit down and talk explain to him that you arent like his ex and wouldnt cheat on him he just needs to understand and trust you with that x
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