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anonymous
writes:Please decode the following... "While one can never have to many friends, I am afraid it would be pushing boundaries that I just cannot". Very confused and can't quite figure it out. Any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): Sorry for the lack of details, please allow me to expand a bit... What began innocently as a "mentor" type situation turned into what I believed was a friendship, and while I had a "feeling" that there could potentially be deeper feelings involved, there was no evidence of what I could interpret to be more. Not until, that is, he asked me to dinner. When I asked what he meant by dinner, he was very clear of his interset in me. I had to decline, as I could not allow a romantic involvement with him which reasons I explained. He replied with a "take care, I wish you well in life" sort of thing. I could tell he was hurt, and I was very confused about how I was feeling or how it had gotten to that point. A very complicated situation indeed. I however, did not wish to hurt him in any way and so confessed that with a man like him, boundaries could not exsist and the threat of falling in love was something I cannot do. I am not one to make decisions based upon how I feel however, and sometime later I asked if we could be friends. The above was his response,and I am uncertain if he meant that he would not be comfortable as friends because of my confessed vunerability, in that he would not want to provoke my feelings through friendship? Or would this mean that he agreed that there was a strong call to fall in love, something that he could not do? His response seemed to reflect my very words: "a man with which boundaries do not exsist and threat of unraveling is near. I cannot unravel". Would this mean that he feels the same? Of course there are many more details to this intensely confusting ordeal, but I feel that I will be better able to fully grasp what happened (and move on) if I could only understand what he meant. Thanks to all for better clarification.-OP-
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reader, dirtball +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Yeah, we really need the context. Is this person male or female? If the person is male, then he likely has a gf, and one who doesn't like him having female friends. If it's a female, then she's doing her best to let you know she doesn't really want to be your friend in a diplomatic way.
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reader, Cloverfield  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Tricky without any sort of context. However, on face value it sounds like this person is saying, very diplomatically, that they don’t need another friend. As I say though the context is what will give the meaning, for example does this person mean friend..... or 'friend' ;)
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