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writes: I've been with this guy for almost a year now. We are not officialy going out, but we do pretty much what every bf/gf does. I love him, and i'm pretty sure he loves me too.But the issue is, he is a very insecure person. He has never admited to other people that he loves me. He has admited to me, but from time to time, he'd tell me he doesn't actually likes me.For the past 11months, he has trying to push me away, telling me that he wants me to leave him alone, but everytime he'd come back to me after few hours, or max days.It gotten worse at the start of the year, he thought i did something that i didn't do, which made him not trust me anymore. I've been trying to earn his trust back, but i know it takes time. The thing is, he keeps on trying to push me away. He'd come over to see me,then he'd block me on msn, and tell me that he doesn't want to see me or talk to me again over and over...then comes to see me again...then a week ago, he came to see me, but the day after, he called me and said he never wants to see me again and if i call him again, he'd change his number. Though after that day he has been calling me everynight, but saying things like "give me your new address so i can send everything you've given me back to you" etc... then last night when he called, i was begging him not to leave, giving me a 2nd chance, give me a chance for him to trust me again, for us to be together again...but he told me to call him in a week, and come up with a reason why i deserves another 2nd chance when he doesn't trust me.I dont know what to do! i dont believe he actually doesn't love me, otherwise he wouldnt have spend that logn with me would he? but am i just lying to myself? What should i tell him when i call him in a week time??? please help!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (17 May 2010):
 Man, these games have to be exhausting! You must be really tired - physically and emotionally. This relationship seems like too much to be in. If a guy loves you, or even likes you, he should not be putting you through all of this. A good relationship won't involve all this drama. I think that you should quit calling him, quit trying and just drop this straining relationship. I know that you love him, but he just doesn't care about you as much as he should. You deserve a lot better than this.
There's a guy out there who won't play these games and won't drag you around in circles. There's a guy who will make you feel totally loved, secure and comfortable. That's the guy who you deserve. So drop this guy who keeps making you beg, and hold out for a great guy who makes you feel love all the time, without begging for affection and commitment. Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): Walk away from this situation if you can muster up the strength too because, this guy is bad news. If he is that insecure and afraid of commitment, then why the hell did he began dating you to begin with? He should have never been dating, let alone in a relationship with you. Sounds like he is playing games and using your life as a revolving door--he comes and goes as he pleases b/c you allow it.
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reader, Idoitbetter1993 +, writes (16 May 2010):
 well i think you should let him go because its not right for someone to keep playing with your heart...the heart is not a toy...its not ment to be played with..the heart is senitive and its where our emotions come from..if you dont stop this now...things could get worst!!!Good Luck to you 3
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