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writes:Hello all i'm in turmoil as the man i love is from India and his parents are tradtional hindu's, he went home 6 wks ago and told them all about me and they are devastated, whilst he was over there his mother arranged for him to meet potential wives and even tried to rip up his ticket so he wouldn't come back to me but thank god he came back to me so i'm so happy.Now they have said that as he graduated 6 months ago and has had no luck getting a job they want him to come home by the 15th of July, this would mean that our relationship would end and he wouldn't come back to Britain. I totally understand their culture but any advice would be welcomed. I love him with all my heart and soul. Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, Renee okc  +, writes (25 June 2009):
He need to stand up for what he believes if he has graduated and is a grown man how can they make him come home and why would he want too i think he needs time to be a man and make his own way it is sad but like you i understand there culture what i want to know is what is the matter with you, why cant he take you home it is hard to fight against a family especially when you dont stand together you need to let this man go so he can in a miserable marriage to a women he doesnt even love and leave it at that i feel really sorry for ya'll but more so him .TELL HIM TO GET A BACK BONE
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): You are fighting the wrong battle. The problem is not what his parents want but what he wants. If he is not ready to defy the odds for you then I will say find your corner, lick your wounds and move on. Involve him in this conversation you are having with yourself. Brainstorm together. One thing I know is that love has caused many to defy customs, parents among other things. You should not be worried about what his parents will do but the choices he will make.
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