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writes: Ok here goes..about 4 months ago myself and my girfriend of 3 years broke up out of the blue b/c she wasn't happy anymore..i thought there was something wrong, i sensed she might be cheating, ect ect..she never wanted to talk about anything, try to work things out, or give me an expalnation..we talked on and off for the first 2 months and i tried to get back together with her..i felt that we were giving up alot..i had just bought a house with her and in my eyes had the perfect life..everytime we talked, she would cry and says she just wasn't ready for that serious of a realtionship, she just wanted to be young, and all the other bs lines..i still tried..then she started blaming stuff on me..it was my personality, i didn't care enough..all not true..anyway about 2 months ago i made a decision that enough was enough..no more calling..asking her to dinner, no more i love yous nothing at all..and i haven't spoke to her in 2 months..we left some loose ends in the house that had to do with money and about a month ago her mother calls me to ask about it? i never called back..then about a week ago i get an e-mail from my ex..hows things going, hows work, telling me that she got a new job real close to my parents house, then at the the end..o by the way i know my mother called you, but you never called her back..then she writes i understand if you don't want to respond to this e-mail..then love always,.... i did not respond of course..but what is this all about? money? there was no hint of an apology or anything like that..but why ask me these things? tell me about your new job? say love always?? why an e-mail and not a phone call?? this girl ripped my life apart, then has the nuts to e-mail me, how's it going? months later.. someone make some sense of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2006): I just wanted to say thanks for responding everyone..yes, i know i'm not the only one who feels like this..but i had a really really really rough 4 months..just bought my first house, was so happy, ready to get married and boom out of nowhere this happens..then i think the part that drove the knife real deep was that the day after she left the house..not a word..not are you ok with all the bills, how are our pets, ect ect..then when i told her 2 months later i was going to sell the house, she said..go ahead "sell it" i really don't care..this whole thing was shocking to me..and 4 months later i still get upset when i have to go to the house to mow the lawn, fix things, ect..my whole life turned upside down in a few days...but again, thank you everyone..you are all great people who really take the time to help someone out in a really tough time..thanks from the bottom of my heart
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (4 June 2006):
Sometimes when you have broken up with someone, they have moments ( just moments ) when they regret it ( or at least, regret losing bits of it ) and sometimes thoughtlessly and selfishly send those kind of e mails.
The relationship is over. Stand firm. Make sure ALL your loose ends are finalised re belongings, money, mail, etc, and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2006): Hi there, sounds a lot like my situation. So on the details you have given I think she was cheating on you with another guy. She has now realised the grass is not greener on the other side and is trying to get you back. New guy probably dumped her. This is probably why she did not want to go into it when you broke up. Her blaming you at the time of the break up was her trying to justify to herself that what she was doing was right.
Keep up your policy of no contact until you reach a stage where you can receive your ex's emails or phone calls and just don't really care anymore what she is trying to do.
All the best for a new future.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (4 June 2006):
 Hey there
Well firstly i'm sorry she broke it off with you and you feel so sad :-(, honey we have all been where your at right now you need closure and i can fully understand that before you can move onto your future, i completely understand where your comingh from i think you had a lucky escape to be honest your ex to me sounds like she has commitment issues there is in no way anything wring with you or your personaility you aound like a really sweet guy who has just had a bad time of it, you where spot on to cut the communication line with her though as i feel she was taking advantage o you and your generous nature...so its good you put a stop to that when you didi this girl obviously did not know a good thing when she had it, i think by the sound of her email money is the last thing on her mind it sounded to me like she has just realised what she actually lost, cause the saying says you don't know what you've got till its gone.... which is oh so true so sweetie you stay strong don't let this girl worm her way back into your life or your affections that sounds to me like its exactly what she wants... you stand your ground sweetie if she wants the things back from the house fair enough surely you and her mom can come to some arrangement where her mom can come pick them up... huh? so hold your ground and stand firm ok
Good Luck, I hope my advice was able to help you, let me know how you get on would love to hear from you again weather it be just a chat or more advise i'm always here for you ok....
You Take Care Sweetie
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