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30-35,
*nique-angel
writes:When I was 12-15 my dad would beat me up regularly. He was very abusive and I had no one to turn to. My friends were there for me but as soon as I would be at home, contact would have to stop. This lead to me and my dad being enemies, not talking and fighting and him trying to turn the family against me. But over the years I have forgiven him and unfortunately it's always thrown back in my face.I suppose this factor kinda played a part in me liking older guys some times 10 years older because I would feel safe, yet I would always be used by them.I started re-talking to his person that I used to chat to 3 years ago. We kinda just talked a lot about sex but I would send mixed messages, it wasn't his fault. It was mine, I would either want him 2 be sweet or talk like that back to him.but cutting it short, I ended up making it up with my dad and we actually get on now because when I was having problems with that guy I just wanted my dad. This resulted in me saying to that lad that I talked 2 him for the wrong reason etc but thanks and bye.Now for the first time we have started talking again but about each other and it felt so nice. So find something about him instead of talking dirty. he knows how i feel about him but i dont want to say to show my feelings. because its unfair on him tbh i do think im still a little bit messed up but I'm dealing with it now but don't know what to do. Every time I do try to talk lovey dovey it results in there beging a gap between us the next time we talk.?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): I am very sorry to hear about what happened with your dad when you were a child. I was only a witness to such abuse in my childhood, and that alone was enough to affect me everyday since, well into my adult life.
There is nothing wrong with being attracted to and dating older men when you are of age. I am exclusively attracted to older men. I am currently in love with a man who is 15 years older than me, and I would date him without giving a second thought to his age.
The key is to find someone who really, sincerely cares about you. You deserve someone like that.
Good luck.
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