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writes:I don't know why but I seem to have a problem with my boyfriends parents...?I've been with my boy for nearly two years and live with him in a my family owned flat in London where I'm studying. I was living in halls before but hated it so I ended up moving in with my boyfriend and his parents and we all got on fine and I liked them! But in the past year I just feel like I don't want to see his parents because they annoy me and we see them alot more than I see my mum! I've just found that his dad can be quite patronising and a bit rude for example when he comes over to my flat he will just walk in and help himself to food even my own family don't do that and it's their flat. When they leave the flat is a state with cushions everywhere and it annoys me! I don't mind his mum I get on with her ok, and whenever we see his dad all my bf and his dad talk about is money and business and I'm so bored! In the past his dad has made certain comments about my bfs ex eg I saw so and so the other day! And he thinks he's so funny, I spoke to my bf about this and he had a talk with his dad so that's sorted! I just don't know what to do, I feel like I don't want to see them and my bf gets annoyed with me even though I have explained all this to him! X
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (11 June 2011):
 Well I have to be brutally honest, I think your all too cramped together and that is the problem. I can understand your annoyed about seeing your mum less but on the other hand thats surely a natural result of your living situation not conscious design? Since you have told your bf about this and he seems unwilling to intervene directly I think the only long-term answer here is for you to think about moving out and finding your own space. This is something I feel quite clearly that you need for your own sanity and ultimately to preserve the relationship. It will also give your boyfriend space to be boring when his dad is around - which, to be fair, he is entitled to be - and help the relationship break a bit I think. So, ye....I am afraid the only solution is to move out as soon as is practicable.
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