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writes:I have been in a relationship with this guy for about 3 months.Quite recently, we started having dry sex, with clothes on and gradually, just in undergarments.However, I'm starting to feel insecure. I did my research on Dry Sex and many sources tells me that there's a very little slight chance of getting pregnant. Which I definitely wouldn't want that to happen as I'm still a minor.It made me worry, making me unable to enjoy Dry Sex.As everytime we did it, I was afraid that semen would get through the clothing.It made me... Scared. Of him.I felt like rejecting his advances towards sexual acts that involves the touching of genitals.I know this may sound, pretty stupid to certain people. Over worrying about Dry Sex.But I'm really afraid of getting pregnant, no matter how slight chances are. I have my studies to continue..My Queries:- Do you think Dry Sex is Safe?- What do you think I could do to protect myself from getting pregnant? (Other than condoms)- How could I gently reject his advances without affecting the relationship? I'm starting to hate dry sex..
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 This is incredible! I always used the 'Dad will not approve' excuse all through my adolescent years to get out of uncomfortable situations. My father had no idea, of course! It really works, like Tisha said!
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 You could go on the pill or get the implant? :)
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 I think maybe the problem is that you aren't quite ready for this sexual activity. You have a great deal of stress and worry surrounding being sexual with him and want to say 'no,' but don't know how to. That tells us that you two are being more intimate than you should be.
The way to solve this is to let him know that you really aren't comfortable with this just yet, and then make sure you aren't alone with him where things could get too physical.
My mother gave me a great gift back when I was your age, she told me to blame my 'no' on her. "No, my mom won't let me be alone with you." "No, my mom said I have to be home by X o'clock." I got to blame her for everything! She knew I would need the excuse, and I used it. It was great. You get to blame the 'no' on your mom. Ask your mother, maybe she'll agree too!
Best wishes.
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reader, Rocky angel  +, writes (15 May 2012):
Its either he use condoms or you use birth control pills....
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2012): I agree with iAmHereToHelpYou. - "Dry sex is safe IF there is no penetration of ANYTHING that may have anything on it."
However, there is no reason for you to "hate" dry sex. It is very pleasurable and a great alternative to sex.
But please, please, please be aware that dry sex is usually a gateway to full-on sex. Generaly edged further on to the "real thing" by the male partner.
Set your boundries and stick to them! Never, ever let him talk you into going at it nude, even if he promises not to penetrate! There must always be a layer of fabric between the two of you or it is no longer dry sex.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 May 2012):
Why can't you use condoms? Is there a particular reason?
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