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writes:I'm Muslim. You know muslims girls are very shy about sexual things so I can't ask anybody about sex. I'm 23 years old. I'm going to get married in January 2008. I'm virgin and my fiance is as well. I love my fiance but I'm a shy girl. I didn't know about the first marriage night before. I got information about first night sex through your web site. Actually I'm worried about......... I mean I don't want having a child soon. So what sort of birth control methods can I use and how can I tell my husband about that? When on first night he would like to have sex with me? I also want to have a memorable first sex night..........i will be thankful to u.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (1 December 2007):
 I guess, as someone whos been to Pakistan and as a Muslim, I can tell that your husband would want to have a natural sexual intercourse. I mean he would not want to ejaculate outside vagine and he would not want to wear a condom either. So I dont think it is a good idea. But you may talk about it. whether taking a shot by having unprotected sex and thus having a baby is a good idea or not. But I think your real question is how it is at first night. I mean sex. You wanna know this. I dont know, whether it hurts the woman or not. But I think you should enjoy it to the full and by the way be helpful to your man also. so relax and have fun and talk about baby preferably after your first night.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): Assalamu Alaikum. As your brother I can suggest the following:Please consult your GP for methods of contraception. If your to-be hubby truly, loves you, he will understand your decision for contraception.As regards first night of passion, many boys in our culture grow up without knowing the details of sexual relations. They grow up having heard of quick, hard intercourse.Unfortunately, the opposite is true. You will found out about mutual foreplay from other websites. The longer the foreplay lasts, the more relaxed you both will be for the intercourse.Don't be afraid o take control in foreplay. Chances are he will be glad you showed him what pleases you most. Guide him verbally, or otherwise. First night is a beautiful gift of mutual discovery, physically and emotionally.May God bless you both.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii  +, writes (1 December 2007):
 okay condoms and the pill are very reliable forms to stop pregnancy. just tell your husband that you love him but you dont want to have a child right now and could he wear a condom? just try and make it special for the both of you and just enjoy it if you love each other it will be memorable and special
good luck-x
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