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writes:I feel really down all th time due to many things. i flucuate with my weight and either am happy coz i get to eat what i want but hate it coz i feel fat or am on a scrict diet where iam losing weight but am unhappy because im not eating what i want. Also Im stressed at work. My manager is a completely unreasonable cow just like the rest of the bitches at work who stir things up between people all the time. Also im very confused as I have a boyfriend who i have been with for years, but he has cheated on me in the past and i have trust issues, i also met another guy who i think about 24/7 and have totally fallen for him. But he doesn't want a relationship and blows hot and cold and uses me but its gonna hurt way too much to let go, i can't, its better being with him once in a blue moon than not at all. Its all just getting me down. Also I don't have a massive amount of friends, which a lot of people think is sad, the friends i do have are mostly older and more mature. But i know im lucky to have a few. My sister is also causing problems in the family. My parents are getting old and she is making life so difficult for everyone, not getting a job, spending all their money etc. Just so many problems. Help please?
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (16 May 2009):
Starting with the weight, the best thing you can do is eat healthily without putting yourself out too much. I love junkfood, but i substituted it for a healthier self cooked version of the same food so i am still enjoying the meal.
To help with some of you other problems, you just need to care less about them. I live a very laid back life where i ignore people who cause trouble and refuse to get sucked into peoples battles. i also have a sister who is a pain in the head but , I keep my distance for the sake of a problem free life.
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reader, allmd  +, writes (16 May 2009):
Hi,
SammyStar is right. If you are sad, maybe you should go see your doctor, or try some other holistic methods.
Work on the things you can control. Your eating issues-find a diet that works for you; your boyfriend-dump him if you aren't happy; the other love interest-leave him alone too. The things that you can't control: your sister, there isn't much you can do about her is there? You can make your feelings known, but thats about it.
But basically life sucks, its not fair, and you have to do what the rest of us do; which is basically "grin and bear it." Sometimes its difficult, I know. On the other hand, you do sound grateful for some of the friends you do have. Confide in them and if they are trying to help you through this--listen to them! They know you better than we do!
Good luck.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (16 May 2009):
 Babe, you're the only one that can help you. If you're really feeling that down you should see a doctor in case you're suffering from depression. I think you should start making a change in your life by getting rid of this boyfriend of yours. Of course, that's not going to instantly make all your other problems go away but it's a start. I don't have a huge amount of friends either but I'd rather have the few amazing ones I have with our close relationship than 100 acquantances. You don't say how old your sister is but I used to get completely stressed about my sister causing problems for the family, but she grew up and stopped acting that way and I wonder why I was ever so worried now! Have a talk with her and be patient, she'll grow up soon enough. As for your job, unless you can find a new one there's not a lot you're going to be able to do about that. I really think you sound unusually down though and should see your GP. If you ever want to talk, just message me, I'll be here for you. Good luck hun x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): wow isn't life fun.
ok so what can you do about it.
lets break it down... you can control you weight- you have to exercise and eat well. once you have lost it then control it and you will feel better for that - that should not be an excuse.
the bf : well he isn't into you - so stop just having a bf for the sake of it - take control and dump him. and get some one who is into you and you into them. don't waste time on it.
sister- talk to her...what does she say?
what things do you like?
star.x.
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