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writes:I am a gay 14 year old and I'm sort of unsure if I should come out.I've known I'm gay since I was 12 and the two years following have been really hard because I've been trying to hide my sexuality because when I was 13 I moved school due to bulling due to my extreme shyness but not my sexuality because I thought I was straight for the most of the time I as there and had a girlfriend whom I broke up with after realising I was gay but didnt tell her or anyone else that and shortly after I moved school at my new school I tried to be more confident and was friends with everyone but then people started realising that I'd rather hang out with girls than boys and they sort have been bulling me behind my back and that's all I hear is small comments I pretend not to hear and now I have no rea lfriends at all only friends that are two-faced to me and there's one guy I have a huge crush on and it seems he fliers with me sometimes but I ignore it and make my best efforts to seem straight wich don't go down well. Anyway, should I just come out in school and then they can't be two faced because id be out and I'd see if this guy really likes me or is secretly mocking me or should I keep it in to stop from anyone else outside of school knowing like my family wich I'm not ready to tell yet. But I feel I shouldn't be ashamed of who I am. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012): tell your close friends but make sure they wont tell anyone if you dont want people to tease also make it clear that you have no feeling towards your friends and that they are just mates to avoid awkwardness
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (29 January 2012):
 AuntyAlexxmo has got it right...if you can handle the taunting then go ahead and come out. However, kids are much more cruel these days.
When I was in school, everyone who was gay came out after they graduated. That way they avoided the bullying as much as they could. People are much more accepting of your sexuality in uni.
For now, I would tell only people you trust..such as your family. Then work on other people when they're much more mature to handle it.
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reader, AbigailBradbury +, writes (28 January 2012):
 YOU SHOULD NEVER BE ASHAMED OF WHO YOU ARE!!
If you feel telling people at school would put you in danger, then maybe you should keep it to yourself and only tell the people you truly trust.
Some people are very cruel, and they are so bored with their own life that they get kicks out of stirring and making people miserable.
don't be afraid.
Stand up for who you are.
there's nothing wrong with your sexuality.
Only tell people when YOU are ready.
If people don't accept you for who you are then they aren't real friends.
Sexuality doesn't change who you are.
You're still the person they know and love.
don't be scared :)
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (28 January 2012):
 You should never be ashamed of who you are and also do not listen to people who will try and tell you that you are too young to decide if you are gay or not, only you know your own mind.Nobody can tell you whether or not to come out, that is up to you, what you need to do is weigh up the options.Unfortunately it is true that if you tell people at school about your sexuality, you will get some bullying or teasing of some kind. I am not saying this is right or fair but it is true. You need to decide if you are strong enough to deal with that and know that it is just immaturity and ignorance. Also telling people in school can easily spread out and get back to family or others outside school. If you feel like you cant keep it in just be strong and ready for what may come, but also understand as you get older people will accept sexuality more easily and care less about who it is you fancy, trust me ive done this!
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