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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a problem. When I masturbate I can get pretty hard but I think it may be harder for me than most people, but I can definitely get there. When I try to have sex with my girlfriend I can't ever make it hard! And she is always so in the mood, everytime I am about to put on the condom it is like very limp and kind of embarrassing... I'm only 18 and I don't know what to do.Is there any type of non-pres pill that works? Is Viagra something I would want in my situation? What can I do to make this work? I'm sure I may be nervous and tense too, the more it's happened the more flustered I get about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): Dude, this (believe me) has happened to millions of men around the world throughout the centuries. Don't worry, you're not alone. It's normal to be aroused when you masturbate, and that's primarily because you get to use your own imagination on who you're having sex with, how the person looks, what the person is doing, and what the person is saying to you. Not only that, you control where your hand goes, how firm the grip is, etc. So therefore, you are in TOTAL control of the ultimate pleasure fantasy in every aspect. Your girlfriend, on the other hand, doesn't know how to hold you, nor does she know how to actually 'stroke' it in the manner that feels soooo perfect. Following me so far? Good. So what do you do? Well, during foreplay, take her hand, place it on your crotch and have her rub it up and down the way you like to do it. Guide her fingers around the shaft (it doesn't have to be hard yet) and gently apply the right amount of pressure that just totally turns you on. At this point, both you AND her should be masturbating you. Kiss her lips, kiss her neck, kiss her chest. And move your neck and chest to her lips so you can get that too! Ladies, guys need that too!!! By this point, her grip will probably tighten and her stroke speed might increase. Now's the time to regulate her by taking her hand and gently slowing it down to let her know that that's what you want. Fifteen minutes of this, you'll be ready to go like a rock star! By the way, your condition is called nervousness. Once you know what you're doing, that'll ALL go away. And NEVER eat asparagus before sex. Eat cantaloupe or honeydew melon.
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