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writes: i am 17 years old, the first time i tried sex was when i was 15 years old, though the guy got in me, it hurt very much , but i new that would happen any way, it wasnt a good experience at all, i thought it could only get better. again in the may i tried it again with someone else, he couldnt get it in me, i put it down with being to drunk. then last december i tried he got it in me, but it hurt so much i had to stop after a few seconds. the forth time was in may and though he got it in me it kept coming out and wouldnt go in properly. I then got some dildo as a present for a joke today, i thought i would have a go see if it can go in and experiment, but it wouldnt go in me. what is wrong with me? im to scared to ever try sex as it is really embarrassing when i cant actualy do it!! thanks .
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): well you need think about this one it could be a number of reasons. you may have virginal tightness you will need to talk to your GP about this. but it can cause pain and/or irregular bleeding. you are not alone in this many womwn all over the world suffer from this. It simply could be that you are not relaxing your body enough during intercourse, trying different posistions may also help the problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2006): I thought there was something wrong with me for a long time. Sex hurt every time . . . BAD. There is nothing physically wrong with me; I even went to a doctor about it. For me, it is mostly in my head. I have learned that there are a number of factors for me that cause this problem. First, I have a fear of becoming pregnant because I do NOT want children ever and cannot afford to get "fixed" so even though I use protection and lots of it, the fear is still in the back of my mind and I am sensitive to it. Second, I have learned I have REALLY be into it. I cannot force myself to give in to my man if I am not "Hot" and really, really wet. Lastly, the person has to be someone I want to be with at that moment. I cannot just turn on; I absolutely have to be into him and the sex. I am a bit older than you and have had to deal with this a long time, but, I hope at least some part of this helps. I doubt you are as sensitive as me, or as weird, but I doubt there is anything wrong with you. It has long been said that sex for women is in our heads more than in our bodies. This is true for many women I think; some of us are just more sensitive to it maybe...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2006): try lots of lubricant sweetheart
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2005): my first times hurt a lot too. actually the first time i tried, my boyfriend could not put it in. the next day he did it and it hurt lots and i bled a lot. really, it was scary. the next 4, 5 times it was a bit uncomfortable but after that it was great. i know it hurts, but if you're sure, do it with someone you trust, and it'll be ok. good luck.
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reader, Qui-Gon-Jim +, writes (16 December 2005):
 Okay, I can't offer a full emotional explanation - your feelings and issues are your own. However, after the first few lines of your question, I remembered something from my biology classes.
Theres a little piece of skin right inside your vagina, that doesn't break until you've had sex. In some women, this piece of skin can be thick enough not to break after a few times. Unfortunately, this means that for some women, sex can be quite painful and can cause bleeding the first few times they have sex, but does break from stress eventually.
Qui-Gon xxx
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (16 December 2005):
 Before having sex, everyones vagina is tight and losing your virginity can be very painful. I think that if you are in the wrong situation, i.e. not comfortable with the person you're with etc, then sex is not going to be enjoyable.
Once you're genuinely ready to have sex, you've met the right guy and hopefully fallen in love, it will all fall into place. Although it will still be tight and may take a bit of effort, you'll be more relaxed and you'll feel more comfortable talking about whatever your problems you have with the guy you love.
I know sex can be scary and sometimes it doesn't always work out like the movies would like us to believe!! But trust me, wait for the right time and the right person and things will be fine. Maybe this was a blessing in disguise that these guys weren't the ones who should take your virginity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2005): maybe you're not lubricated enough? try using some astroglide and your fingers -- see if they can fit inside. maybe you just need to stretch a little ..
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reader, deirde +, writes (16 December 2005):
This is nothing wrong with apart from that you are tensing yourself up and it hurts more and the mans penis won't go in you if that happens.
You are obvoiusly not with the right people if you feel this way and have that happen to you.
When you meet the right person, you will feel relaxed and have a better experience of sexual intercourse.
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