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writes:I cum really fast, how can i prevent that?
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reader, hdell  +, writes (30 August 2008):
Here is a sure method to get over premature ejaculation. It is how I got cured. By masurbating bring yourself to just the brink of cumming, then stop. Hold on to that situation for, say, half an hour. Then cum. Maybe you won't be able to hold off that long right away. But wait a day or so and try again until you are successful. The idea is for you to control when you cum, rather than being controlled by the excitement of the situation. When you get to the brink of cumming when you masturbate and hold that situation before cumming, the first time you do it you will have the most exquisite feeling for that first half hour before you release yourself. This is the way some men get the most fun when they maturbate--holding off as long as possible before cumming.
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reader, Sazzness  +, writes (25 August 2008):
 my boyfriend sometimes cums too fast. Recently, he's come up with a new technique. He says that when he gets the feeling he's going to cum, he slows down and thinks of something (i think it's a fat, ugly woman?), which helps take the feeling away, then he opens his eyes and carries on, wiping this memory away.
you could also used condoms with a numbing cream in (such as Durex Performa) which helps desensitise the top of your penis a bit, to help you last longer. However, my boyfriend said it hurt a little and it does have some side effects.
You could also slow down when you think you're close and focus on giving the girl some more attention (oral, fingering or just kissing and carassing), which helps you calm down a little, but brings your girl more pleasure.
Have fun, and remember, when you have sex, use a condom. :]
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (25 August 2008):
 Probably the most effective is the "stop-start method" in which you gradually train yourself to gain better control. Whether through masturbation or intercourse, when you near the state of arousal that results in ejaculation, stop the stimulation. In the case of intercourse or fellatio, it may be better to remove the penis for a time to prevent ejaculation. Redirect your attention to providing your partner with foreplay for awhile, then resume the prior activity a few minutes later. Better control may be easier with your partner performing fellatio, stopping and restarting on your instructions. It will probably take weeks or months to gain complete control, but there are few alternatives. More experience with sex, including greater frequency, will also help over time. The situation commonly goes away with age and experience.
Another method to gain better control is called Kegel exercises, in which the muscles of the pelvic region are exercised by squeezing and releasing repeatedly. One way to get started is to practice stopping a couple of times during urination. This teaches which muscle area to exercise. The exercises can then be practiced most anytime, in most any position. It may take a good while to strengthen these muscles and learn to use this control method during intercourse. Other methods, such as squeezing the glans of the penis when nearing ejaculation, may also help.
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reader, kenny +, writes (25 August 2008):
 Are you talking about cumming fast during masurbation, or actually during sex?. I going to assume its the latter, and say when you are having sex and you feel you are about to ejaculate, withdraw and do some forplay until the feeling subsides, then try again. Also a good idea may be to think of something that you don't find particularly sexual, like a game of basketball, or football, or anything, doing this steers your mind away from the thought of ejaculating and hopefully last abit longer.
Good luck
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