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writes:Hi, its me Veronica again. for those of you who answered my last question here's a follow up and another question. For those who didn't here's a recap. I'm 22, have a eight year old son,and pregnant with twin girls. My ex boyfriend is a cheating no good. Well me and him haven't been together and he no longer stays in my home or has any belongings in my home. I am now 5 months pregnant and just found out that I'm having twin girls! However 1 of my girls has a hole in her heart. I go see a heart doc on the 8th but I'm very scared and depressed as to how bad it is and what may happen. My ex has been no support in no way and doesn't seem to care. I've also had to come to reality that my car I had is gone for good. I had a car up until Aug 17th. When I went to court for my home upon coming out of court I found that Cleveland police towed the car for tickets. Since then I've been trying to get the money to get it back. I haven't been able to with having to pay the bills and other things to live all by myself. So on the 8th if I don't get the money up I can kiss my car goodbye. Its been hard going to doc appts and being high risk. Also having a eight year old and taking him back and forth to school. to top it all off the father is living with a girl he was cheating on me with that guess what y'all , stays right next door to me! Yea y'all she's my fucking neighbor! But the icing on the cake is that the father got back a school check and instead of helping me get my car out for the kids sake or buying some things for the babies he just had his own fun with it. Something else right? I know! Now I have no car, I'm not working at the moment,and have nothing ready for the babies. Everyone knows twins usually come early. Plus my eight year old needs a lot as well. Its cold already here in cleveland. He needs coat,boats,more clothes ext. I have decided that I need to move or I'm gonna hurt someone. At this time people I'm losing my mind. I don't know what to do. I'm scared,worried, stressed. I have nothing ready at all for the babies and its not 1 but 2. I'm worried about what the doc will say on Friday bout the baby with the hole in her heart. I jus don't know what to do and were to start! Can someone please help me? I don't know which way is which. I also feel like I'm gonna hurt the both of them motherfers.
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reader, heart-shaped-balloon +, writes (5 October 2010):
 I would push for child support. That bum should be giving you SOMETHING. And I mean legally. He obviously won't give it to you any other way.
May I ask where you live as far as city or state? That way I can figure out help programs in your area. There are TONS of programs out there that can help you through this hard time.. And maybe even to get your car back. Since you have children and are a single mother, you are more likely to receive aid.
For now I will assume you are close to Cleveland due to the cops towing your car there, so I will list some programs in that area:
http://www.needhelppayingbills.com/html/cleveland_county_assistance_pr.html
They offer MANY different services that can help you out.
Also try and find out about your local HEAP program.. They will help you pay for your bills. Also see if they have a weatherization program- people might be willing to come for free to set up your home so that it lowers your power and utility bills.
Look for information on the "Lone-Mother Families and Social Assistance Policy."
http://www.howtodothings.com/family-and-relationships/a4039-how-to-find-grants-for-single-mothers.html
Try checking out this site, and also look up local churches and religious groups and phone them. Many are willing to give financial aid, food help, and counseling as well as help paying bills and help getting back on your feet.
Try not to stress too much- I know more than one person who is alive and healthy today who has a whole in their heart. It is perfectly survivable. Just be strong for your babies and try to keep as healthy as possible. It's not going to be easy, but there are many places that will help you out.
Try looking into HUD or TANF. There is also the LIHEAP and Raise the Nation Foundation, as well as CoAbode. These are mainly federal programs, so you will need to check out the specifics in your area as I am unsure of that they are. Try calling 211 and explaining your scenario-- this is set up in 80% of states and is a phone number meant for families in crisis. They can direct you to sources that will help you with your individual problems.
Also, check out these sites:
http://www.singlemomfinancialhelp.com/news/financial-assistance-for-single-mothers.shtml
http://www.modestneeds.org/
Good luck, lovely. Just know that things can only go up from here and stay positive for your babies.
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