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writes:I am 7 weeks pregnant with a man's baby who I am not in love with. I just recently got out of a four year long relationship and can only wish that it was his child. I am 22. What should I do????? Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 Are you financially and emotionally ready to start a family? How do you feel about your pregnancy? Would you want to marry the father? You will have to be prepared to be tied to him through this child for the rest of your life. Is he someone that you could raise a child with and would he be a good father? You are the only one that knows whether or not this is feasible for you and if you are prepared to do it. Becoming a single Mom is a difficult thing, but the rewards of having a child, well, it's the biggest blessing. You are young, and you have a lot of things to consider. I respectfully suggest that time is on your side, and you do have quite a few years ahead of you to start a family, but having said that, I do not know your views on terminating the pregnancy. At seven weeks, you do have options, even if they are not ones that anybody ever wishes that they would to have to make. Good Luck, Dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): I really do feel for you, no matter what you decide, you are damned if you do and damned if you dont.
You are only 7 weeks, so there is plenty of time to have an abortion, if you want.
But if you go on have the child you will have to let the father of the child know about it, which will mean contact, with the child, you dont have to see him if you can arrange for someone else to be inbetween.
Or, you could tell the childs father and make a go with him, but you must make a decision and make it fast. No-one will judge you for the decision that you make.
But remember, the child didnt ask to be born and should be put through hell because of it. If you dont love the childs father, then no one on this earth will make you stay with him because of the child.
Bringing up a child on your own is very hard, i should know, i brought my youngest up by myself, but very very rewarding. I now have a 6'2" lad aged 16.
Decide and mail me if you want, and let me know what you decide.
Sending you big hugs.
take care and look after yourself.
xx
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