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writes:I'm 23 weeks pregnant and actually just found out 2 weeks ago (I had no symptoms, period was normal...so had no clue..but the baby is healthy!) Once I found out from the OBGYN, my boyfriend was not too thrilled about it. We both just started our careers and this was something we hadnt planned..we were planning on buying a house within the next year and then getting married. He took it pretty bad at first, and he ignored me for a few days..now he seems like hes starting to come around but Im not 100% sure. When he first found out, he said we werent ready and we should be responsible and put the baby up for adoption...once he said that, I got extremely upset and told him I dont think I'd be able to go through with that. When he did start talking to me again, he seems okay with the fact that Im pregnant and we joke around and stuff about it..but I dont know if he'll come around more once he sees the ultrasound and I find out whether its a boy or girl. Is this a normal reaction for a 24 year old guy to go through or am I just wasting my time waiting for him to accept this completely?? Any advice would be helpful! Thanks :)
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reader, hunnibuns104 +, writes (25 August 2008):
hunnibuns104 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 6 months pregnant and my boyfriend doesnt think we are ready both emotionally and financially to have a baby. He thinks the responsible thing to do would be put it up for adoption. We're both 24, and we both have stable careers and all...but I'm not sure what to do. I know where he is coming from and what he is saying, but at the same time, I dont know if I could actually put my own child up for adoption. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation, or have any advice either way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): how is it possible to have regular periods during pregnancy?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 August 2008):
 I like oldersister's advice on this. Just one more thought. He may indeed come around and accept this wholeheartedly. It's just that the baby has rocked his world and your plans. I'd give him time and be patient, but do find out if he's going to stick by you through this.
It's a pity that he didn't leap up and down with joy, but that moment has passed. If he does start to come around, try not to resent his initial reaction, and the slowness with which he embraced the whole idea. That could really hurt the two of you down the line.
Good luck and congratulations on the baby! The good news is that you will still be young when the child has grown up!
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