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writes:I'm 26 yrs old and I'm pregnant. At the time i was in a relationship and thought i was pregnant with my boyfriend. I wasnt and we end up breaking up but i didnt tell him i wasnt pregnant because i didnt know for sure. My high school sweetheart and i started a relationship after and we broke up. Little did i know i was pregnant after him. Problem is that my high school sweetheart doesnt want anything to do with me and i dont think he wants to be involved in the babys life because he has 2 kids and 1 on the way. I tried telling him he might be the dad but since we had a bad break up he doesnt want to hear anything i have to say. On the other hand my exboyfriend thought that i was pregnant for him the whole time. He wants to be involved. Thats all i really want. Please can someone help me? I cant talk to any of my friends because they'll just judge me. All i want is someone that will be there for my little girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to be the woman that I am and tell the truth but I can't pull myself to any more pain or humiliation. I dont know, I think I will just let things go. Just stop reponsing to my ex boyfriend. Take my lick. And raise my child on my own. Though it hurts like hell just knowing my child won't know her dad but her dad doesn't want to own up any how.....Im so confuse....
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): why do you want to bring a child into this world when there is so much uncertainty hanging over its parternity.your current bf will HATE you if you lie to him and tell him this kid is his when you know it isn't. your hs sweetheart was big enough to do the deed with you but wants to shurk his responsibility. 3 kids and possibly a 4th. he needs to start using condoms don't you think. i think having unproected sex with 2 men is highly irresponsible of you. you want tohoodwink your bf into thinking this kid is his. please think again. don't be like the cheap women out there that knowingly ly to other men that they fathered a child when they havn't. at least have respect for yourself and confess the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): It sounds like you are trying to convince yourself that you should just keep your mouth shut and it would be best for everyone. Sorry, I won't support that idea. It's not right. The baby's father is who it is no matter what might be more convenient after the fact. If it's not your current BFs then the truth will come out eventually. It's not fair to your child to lie to him/her about their genetic background and deny them knowing the person who made them the other half of who they are. And it's not fair to your BF to risk leaving him raising a child that is not really his if he does not want to do this. Even if he does, it's his choice to make for himself. Hypothetical questions are one thing. But when it really happens, people don't always feel the same way about these kinds of choices as they would have expected to. Tell everyone the truth and get a DNA test as soon as possible. It's the only answer.
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