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writes:Dear Agony Aunts,Late last year, after many problems, I had an operation on my ovaries. They found cysts on both ovaries - a few other things besides. They said the damage was such that my chances of conceiving a child was very very slim. I have great boyfriend of only 1 year, and we have been sloppy with contraception after the operation. No excuses, just the way it is. Last month I found out I am pregnant. It's a miracle - I am 35 years old, and with all my other problems I just never thought I would ever be so lucky to have children. So I should be over the moon. I feel so blessed except for one thing. My family are really unhappy that I am not married, and I would love myself to have been married but I can't force my boyfriend and he hasn't mentioned it. We don't even live together. I feel blessed and happy yet guilt ridden for not being married - how can I stop feeling this guilt and relax and be happy- I know it sounds silly...probably my hormones... xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): I come from a religious background and currently 6 months pregnant unwed ... and to top it off, single too. lol. The family might be unhappy now but its your life and trust me on this fact ... they will get used to it eventually as my family did. Okay, lots of shock but they are can handle hun. Its not like you murdered anyone or being pregnant at 13 (soz, if anyone who did, just insulted ya). Its your life, ignore what they say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): These are modern times. I know you want your family support. They will come around. Only you can live your life. Don't worry about what others think - no matter who they are. It's a waste of time and energy. Your job in life is to take care of you, and make yourself happy. Remember too that people treat you the way you allow them to treat you. So stand your ground be happy and enjoy it.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 Be happy. Your family are the ones who sulks about you not being married. Thats THEIR issue, not yours. You should feel no need to be unhappy about it as you have every right to be feeling great! Congratulations! I wish you all the best and if its right for you, then you will be married, but don't try and force it just because your family wants it.
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