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writes:I am a 27 yr old female and 22 weeks preg with my first child. I am not married nor engaged but i have a loving boyfriend. my boyfriend is a lot older than me and has 2 teenage children from his previous marriage. hes children are very needy and are constantly asking for attention. i am at that point where im feeling very neglected and alone in this pregnancy. ive asked him for my sexual and intimacy needs and he has said that his children come first and that we can only spend one night together a week. Am I being unreasonable? what kind of relationship and lifestyle am i in for?
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 I think you are in for a rocky ride. He is being very unfair to you. When you are pregnant you need a little extra tlc. I think one night a week is very unfair especially as you are carrying his child. If this is a taste of things to come I would be very wary. So will you get one night a week when the baby is born. I dont really know if he is worth the worry. I would concentrate on getting through the pregnancy and looking after you and if you have to do it on your own you will be fine. And maybe you may find love again with someone who can afford more than one night a week
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2007): He's got to remember that although his kids are number one that he can't neglect or make you lonely by spending so much more time with his kids than you. You aren't being reasonable wanting to see your boyfriend (and father of your unborn child) more than just one night a week. Your boyfriend has got to remember you whilst spending time with his kids (after all, you are pregnant with another of his children). If you decide to stay with him and have his kid whilst being in a relationship with him he's got to remember to put the newborn baby as also number one (like his other kids). But remember, you don't have to stay with him. Single mums do just fine by themselves and one day you might end up meeting a loving and caring man who will have more time for you than just a night a week.
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