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*utumnEyes
writes:My boyfriend and I have been talking about taking our relationship a bit further. He is a bit older than me and knows that I want to take things slow and wait on full out sex. I'm still a virgin, but he's pretty experienced. The other night he told me that he'd like to go down on me. I've never had anyone do this to me before and I guess I'm a little nervous. I am actually pretty comfortable with the way it smells down there (I know that is usually a big thing that most girls are insecure about). He has already reassured me that I don't need to be self conscious about my body. The biggest concern for me is that I am prone to Urinary Tract Infections. I would never let him go down on me while I had one, that just isn't healthy. But about two years back I got a very bad one and we didn't have the money to take me to the doctor's for medicine. The pain went away, but since then it smells a little off when I urinate. I guess I'm only worried that even if I don't have the infection it will smell different to him and he may not enjoy it. Any tips you lovely aunties can give me? I usually am clean shaven and clean myself well down there. I am happy to say I haven't had a UTI in almost half a year! (that is a big deal for me as I used to get them almost every other month). Also I am curious to know how it feels. Thank you all!
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reader, AutumnEyes +, writes (18 April 2013):
AutumnEyes is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all so much! I definitely want to make sure I get some proof that he does not have anything before we do this, just to make sure.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 April 2013):
 Congrats on no UTI for six months... when I was your age they were constant and chronic for me. I was told from age 9 when they started to NOT TAKE BATHS... do not sit in the water and no bubble baths EVER.
I have had many cases of hemorrhagic cystitis. (basically bleeding with a UTI) and have NEVER gotten one from oral sex.
If you are not in the middle of an attack (and gawd help me I don't want anyone NEAR that part of my body when I have a UTI) then there is NOTHING to worry about. PEE before any sexual activity. Wipe properly (always front to back) have your fun... then as soon as sexual activity is done.... get up and PEE again... then go back to bed and cuddle...
the act of peeing pushes any bacterial out of your urethra and is the best way to prevent issues. But if you have chronic issues without sexual contact, then there is something else going on and maybe you need to see a speicalist. For me using a diaphragm (as birth control and sometimes to hold menstrual flow) was part of my issue as it "crushed" the urethra. There is also the possibility that you are not completely emptying your bladder and urine is backing up into the urethra...
IF you feel your urine smell is off from having an untreated UTI (btw never do that again honey it can travel to your kidneys and become a serious lifelong problem. Please discuss this with your gyn or maybe a trip to the specialist (urologist) is in order to determine what's causing such a chronic problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2013): Dental dams, mouth wash and the brushing of teeth before he goes down on you is the best way.
OP he's 28, you may want to ask him to get tested for STI's and show you written proof of cleanliness I'd have no problem doing that and did for my fiancée.
I guess you're still going to see him behind your parents back so, seeing as I just posted in your last question.
I think you should go see a doctor though and ask them about this. Maybe your urinary tract infections could be from your own bacteria getting in there. If that's the case then dental dams aren't going to stop your juices going up there. Speak to a doc, OP. There may be some feminine hygiene products that can help prevent this better.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 April 2013):
 Dental dams. look them up. Use them. Problem solved.
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