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anonymous
writes:Hi all I have been having an issue with myself. I have 2 children with my husband. My second was born about 7 months ago. 2 beautiful children who I love to bits. My issue is with my post baby body. I know that sounds juvenile. My stomach never "bounced back" and was never the same after my first was born, and then with my second it just became a mess. I already had stretch marks on my boobs and thighs from puberty, and I got stretch marks on my stomach from both pregnancies. Literally my entire stomach is covered, most are even still a red tint and have not turned silver yet. And in addition to this as I've said before, my stomach has become saggy and loose and doesn't seem to be getting any better. I know it probably sounds selfish, but my self confidence has plummeted big time. My sister who had her baby years ago didn't get any stretch marks, and looks fabulous. She was even surprised when I showed her my stomach after my second was born. I don't know what to do to get my confidence back and feel better about this.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 June 2016):
 There are products you can get to help with the appearance off stretch marks, bio oil, coconut oil, choco butter. Lots of things to try. Maybe also try doing core workouts to tighten your stomach muscles.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2016): Start taking care of yourself for yourself! Health should be your priority.Watch what you eat (lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, start juicing, avoid sugar, salt and highly processed food).Start exercising. Find ways to exercise when you're out with the kids. Do your hair, your nails, whatever is your thing. Go through your wardrobe, give away anything that doesn't suit you anymore...I don't know if you'll get the looks you're after, but trust me, if you start taking care of yourself, your confidence will go through the roof regardless of any excess weight, stretch-marks...Your body is no different from any women's. We all change with age and need to reinvent ourselves over and over again.Invest time and energy in yourself. It'll show.Just because you're a mother doesn't mean that you're not something else too. Surround yourself with positive people. It takes time, but even before you see the changes on the outside you'll soon feel the change on the inside. And that's the most important thing.Understand that you have the control over your body. You just didn't use it thus far. Use it now.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 June 2016):
 Do you value your role as a mother? Yes, then be confident in that.
Do you value your role as a human? Yes then be confident in that.
What is it about a woman's BODY that makes her less valuable than a man?
Do not compare yourself to ANYONE else...
I was a breastfeeding champ. So much so that I became a La Leche League Leader. My ability to breastfeed over my BFF (who had issues with it and gave it up with many tears and self-recriminations) does not make me a better mom.
My having C-sections does not make me less of a mom but there are women that judge me for it. WHO CARES what others think.
We value men not on their bodies but on their words, deeds and actions...it's time we evaluate women that way too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2016): You're not unique by any stretch of the imagination. What you're experiencing is extremely common after pregnancy.
Follow blogs that talk about it.
I googled and found many many MANY sites with discussion, advice, pictures of real post partum bellies etc.
http://www.babycenter.com/0_your-post-baby-belly-why-its-changed-and-how-to-tone-it_1152349.bc
http://www.fitpregnancy.com/exercise/postnatal-workouts/5-exercises-your-post-baby-belly
http://www.babble.com/baby/what-our-post-baby-bellies-really-look-like/
http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/real-bellies-postpartum
Etc etc
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